They always come back when you are moving on

[Shooshybobs]

I was seeing a guy on and off for 18 months which ended as fwb before i ended things completely a few weeks ago. Been no contact since, he basically shut me out, wasn't open and the relationship was hard work.
Ive since been on a date with a new guy who seems really nice and all the things guy 1 wasnt! Its refreshing actually.
However today guy 1 has texted after no contact saying how sorry he is and loads of other reflective type stuff.
I wish I could have just read it and deleted but of course he's now in my head, why do they have the power to do this!
Its so annoying, I've got this lovely new guy who is kind and keen and makes me laugh and all I'm thinking of is I wish guy 1 would text me again (I haven't replied to his last message)
Feelings are bloody awful at times wish head could take the lead here!

They are always sorry when you get on with your life. It’s happened to me so often it’s expected when the relationship finishes and I move on. It’s annoying when they get in your head. You need to realise if you go back it will be the same. Block and move on with new guy.

Nothing good will come if the first guy, you know it, on/off fwb is all that he is, take a chance on the new guy and move on.
Don't let the first one keep tempting you, he's holding you back from finding a man that can offer you more stability.

Keep it simple block him,!! He no longer in your headspace

Yeah the only way is to block really if it's holding you back

Yep, block and move on. What a cruel thing to do.

Send him back a 😁 and block him.

Headworkers are always attempting to headfuck. He doesn't care two hoots about you. This reflective message he sent...out of interest, how often does it use the words 'I' 'me' and 'myself' ?

They feign self work when you are escaping and their ego cant take it. But if you look closely you can see it for what it really is, a load of self absorbed drivel.

@Wanderlusto

Headworkers are always attempting to headfuck. He doesn't care two hoots about you. This reflective message he sent...out of interest, how often does it use the words 'I' 'me' and 'myself' ?

They feign self work when you are escaping and their ego cant take it. But if you look closely you can see it for what it really is, a load of self absorbed drivel.

That was 100% it, I even thought to myself that was so self absorbed!! Brilliant!!

Haha yeah had a feeling.

It's all me me me with them lot.

Look at it this way, you gave it 18 months and it wasn't working for you. Because he was all about himself. And he still is. And that won't change.

So this time, choose yourself.

This happened to me with my DP - guy who had dumped me a few months previously crawled out of the woodwork the minute we were falling in love. So glad I told him to sod off as I’m now v happy with DP.