Should I still meet this guy even if I've just started seeing someone?

[Lisafly]

So I (24) met a guy (26) online towards the end of last year. We texted almost every single day, did vid calls, lots of fun and connected quite well. But we haven't been able to meet due to distance, schedules etc.

Anyway, I have just started seeing someone, so said we need to text less but agreed to be friends.

I also agreed that we should still meet. Is it right that I keep his number and still meet with him later next month even as a friend? If, when I meet him for the first time, is it quite possible that I will end up wanting to date him? I'm not the most experienced in all this. Thank you

Depends what you mean by "seeing someone". It seems to be quite normal, especially lately, to date multiple people without qualms. However if the present person thinks you are exclusive the meeting seems a bit dodgy to me

Rule of thumb here is would your nose be out of joint if your bf did, and was considering the same? There isn’t really a right answer on ones like these, but being upfront, honest on where your values lies is the best way foward.

I would not be ok with this if I was your partner. Assuming you mean by 'seeing someone' that you are together. Or at least, at the point where you are sleeping together.

If it were me, I would explain to the guy I had been speaking to that I was now seeing someone so it would not really be appropriate for us to meet at the current time but that I wished him all the best and if circumstances changed, he would be the first to know.

Tbh I would probably still keep him as an acquaintance (eg: social media) but there would be no more long convos or suggestions of meeting up. It just isnt ok. He is not your buddy. He is someone who was actively pursuing you romantically. As pp said, if the show were on the other foot I doubt you would feel comfortable with it.

Have you had the exclusive chat with the person you are "seeing"?

If you would be gutted and aggrieved if the person you're seeing did the same, then that's your answer.

Keeping your options open incase you prefer him to the man your seeing I think you mean. Decide if you like the man you're seeing enough first, I think if you're that into him you wouldn't be wanting to meet this other man.

You're 24. You need to figure out what you want, keep your options open. Go meet the other guy, just don't date then both. If the connection is there just break it off with the current guy.

This type of stuff is so normal in the beginning as long as you don't start sleeping with them both.

It’s fine! You’ve decided on a platonic friendship with the first guy. I’ve got friends I met on dating apps but we didn’t fancy each other IRL despite getting on really well, so decided to be friends. One is still a really good mate five years later!

How long have you been seeing the second guy? If it’s only a couple of dates then it’s very early days and even if guy 1 was a date there’s nothing wrong with exploring options in the early days. I’d be freaked out by someone assuming it was exclusive really early on