So confused about sexuality

[triedsomethingnew]

I have always considered myself bicurious because I found women attractive but didn't think I'd enjoy sex with a woman or be any good at it. I've always been too shy to flirt or attempt to do anything sexual with a women beyond kissing/groping.

Well recently one thing lead to another and I slept with my female friend of mine and it was SO amazing! I enjoyed every minute of it and it's made me question everything I ever thought about myself. Does this mean I'm bisexual? I'm so confused!

That's nice. Don't overthink. You're fine.

Agree don't over think, you are you!

I know the 'label' really doesn't matter to anyone except me. It's just really spinning my head out.

My parents are really religious and a bit homophobic so I could never say anything to them. I think it had almost been drilled into me that I just could NOT be gay in any way so I just ignored those feelings and pushed them aside.

Would you sleep with a female again, or just this one? Would you equally sleep with another man again? If yes to both then you are probably bisexual.

But who is anyone else to tell you what you label yourself as, as long as you're happy!

Just do what makes you happy and you will just know how you feel.

Yes to both.

I think now I've done it the fear of being crap/being awkward/not knowing what to do is gone and I know I could do it again and enjoy it. I feel like I've been lying to myself my whole life.

It's actually very freeing in a way but at the same time I'm feeling slightly sad because I wish I had allowed myself to feel it sooner. It was just hard to block out all the anti gay messages at home :/

I have no idea if my own personal experience will help, but l’ll give it a try.

I experienced my female renaissance in my early 30s. Describing myself today, l would say that l am female and “sexual”. There is no prefix before that. It is uneccesary.

If you want to discover a little more about yourself, look up the Kindey Scale where you can do a short but scentific quiz, which will show where you are on the sexuality spectrum.

Don’t tie yourself up in knots of confusion though, it achieves nothing.

I was brought up in a very religious home which was quite homophobic.
I'm now married to my female partner. Parents were horrified initially and didn't come to our wedding but they've learned to tolerate it and are perfectly pleasant now.
I was 38 when I left my husband to be with her. I haven't regretted it EVER and the sex is fantastic.

There is a thread on the sex boards called finding a likeminded woman.
May be of interest to you.

Hey! I can't find the thread finding a likeminded woman. Can you help?