Ex partner jealous of my pregnancy and relationship

[Jayyyy]

So a bit of background info; I’ve got a 4 year old daughter with my ex partner, we’ve been split up for quite a long time. I’m in a relationship with a great guy and I’m 10 weeks pregnant, my current partner lives with me and my daughter.

My ex called me yesterday regarding arrangements with my daughter this weekend, he has her every weekend. He asked if I was pregnant and I said yes as I was planning on sharing the news publicly soon anyway and he’s just been so unreasonable and sh*tty about it. He’s insisting that I should have told him as soon as I found out, I think this is a ridiculous statement from him, I’m under no obligation to tell him about my pregnancy the second I found out. I’ve been very reasonable about his tantrum and tried to be as understanding as possible about his feelings towards this. He’s demanding I give him full custody of our daughter so he can get a house with the council which is just a stupid demand for a stupid reason. I’ve obviously said I’m not going to do that and he’s having an absolute fit about it.

I’m not sure what the point of this post is, I just wanted to vent really as he’s getting on my last nerve, he was horrible to me during our relationship after our daughter was born and has been nothing but drama and tantrums since we broke up 2 years ago. I usually just ignore him if he’s being difficult but I’m finding it very hard to bite my tongue.

He sounds abusive and unstable.

Would you talk to 101 and Women's Aid for advice.

He sounds unstable.

Do you trust him with your child?

@billy1966

He sounds abusive and unstable.

Would you talk to 101 and Women's Aid for advice.

He sounds unstable.

Do you trust him with your child?

He’s honestly lost the plot. I do trust him with my daughter as his contact with her is supervised by his mum, he lives at her house and me and her have a decent relationship. He’s good with my daughter but he still thinks he has control in my life which I’ve made clear isn’t the case. I’ve talked to the police and a couple of agencies regarding him in the past and gotten nowhere. My daughter really enjoys her time with him so I don’t want to stop it altogether but if he continues to act like this then that’s probably the route we’ll end up going down unfortunately.

You never have your Child on a weekend ever OP ?

He wants to use your child to get a council house. He isn't thinking of his daughter's needs, just his own.

And absolutely you did not have to tell him about your pregnancy. It is none of his business. That he thinks it is says a lot about him.

This sounds like he is saying well you can hand our daughter over now you've got another one on the way. What a guy!!

Congratulations x

Why did he ask if you were pregnant??

@BlueDahlia69

You never have your Child on a weekend ever OP ?

He has her on a Saturday, he works throughout the week.

@Windmillwhirl

He wants to use your child to get a council house. He isn't thinking of his daughter's needs, just his own.

And absolutely you did not have to tell him about your pregnancy. It is none of his business. That he thinks it is says a lot about him.

That was my first thought! He’s just looking for some sort of personal gain 🤦🏼‍♀️

@jelly79

This sounds like he is saying well you can hand our daughter over now you've got another one on the way. What a guy!!

Congratulations x

Exactly! As if I would even consider that! Mental.

Thank you x

@jelly79

Why did he ask if you were pregnant??

He said it’s because I’ve put on weight all of a sudden. I’m usually very slim but I’ve started to look a bit pregnant the last couple of weeks 🥴

He has her on a Saturday, he works throughout the week.

I aahh yes I understand.. yes I agree don't let him manipulate you or bully you.

Congratulations on your pregnancy . 🌸

@BlueDahlia69

He has her on a Saturday, he works throughout the week.

I aahh yes I understand.. yes I agree don't let him manipulate you or bully you.

Congratulations on your pregnancy . 🌸

Thank you 🙏🏻 x

Apologies, I did not congratulate you on your pregnancy. I was too outraged on your behalf.

Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy and am delighted to hear you don't feel a need to pander to his abuse.

Just a thought I am going to toss into the wind.
Has the stark reality of your moving on just hit him?
Was he expecting that you would 'come to your senses' and beg him to come back, solving his housing situation?
Either way, not your problem. Carry on ignoring him.
And Congratulations!

He has to have his contact supervised but is demanding full custody? I’d have said aye ok pal and laughed at him.

You need to channel Jessica Gunning (from Back.)
vimeo.com/333992840
56-57 seconds, practise the slight head tilt and "Aww".

OK don't actually do that because he sounds slightly worryingly erratic. But be thinking it in your head.

He is not entitled to your attention, friendship or cooperation (outside of your DD's needs.) I think at this point I would simply not answer any questions or comments that don't relate directly to your DD.

Nice to know she's front and centre with him only if he thinks he can get something out of it. Twat.

Congrats on your pregnancy OP