All his exs crazy or manipulative?

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Recently I have talking to an old friend I haven’t spoken to in years. He said he’s made many bad choices when it comes to women and he seems to attractive crazy or manipulative women. One ex was an anti vaxxer for example. Another ex made it very difficult for them to break up and she was going around telling people they had purchased a property together when they hadn’t. It all seems a bit extreme? Red flag?

Red flag for sure. Manipulative abusers say their exs are crazy.

What do all these "crazy" ladies have in common, there's a good chance the problem is him.

All these crazy exes have one thing in common here!

Red flag the size of my house

That would be a red flag for me. It's funny how in those scenarios your friend is completely blameless. It's so easy to blame the crazy woman.

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hmm, my first thought reading your title was def red flag. But you say this is an old friend and not a potential partner, so what is his reason for saying this to you?
Normally the crazy exes stop men seeing their children, these stories are different. And an anti vaxxer is genuinely crazy. So there may be a reason he attracts crazy people. But on the evidence given I would give him the benefit of the doubt until you have more reason not to.

Agree with others it's a firm nope.

To meet so many unhinged women is a bit of a coincidence isn't it!

Out of interest why did he share this? Out of the blue? You asked? Seems an odd thing to say to someone without good reason. It's very personal. (And clearly bollocks).

Are you supposed to feel sorry for him, and also pleased he doesn't think you're a nutter? Not a good chat up approach!

Huge red flag. DH worked with a man like this, every company he’d left we’re nasty, every boss who didn’t promote him were horrible people. Now that DH had moved on and now he’s the nastiest person. Oddly, DH had a conversation this week with a contact in the USA who remembers an abusive man trying to get work there in the 1970’s. Yep, it’s the same person.

Still my guess is though that there's indication of dating etc.

Mad friends are fine I've got loads

He’s volunteering a lot of it
I’m certainly not asking
Suspect he may be interested in me romantically
It’s completely put me off him
Another dud - I’m done with them!

Nope romantically for sure.

As a friend - hmm. TBH if he's telling you this stuff as a come on then probably not. He's a liar with no respect for women. And possibly manipulative.

Definitely don't go there romantically. Red flags all over it.

It's only two examples there, is that his whole history?

My partners last two exs were nuts/stupid (1 cheated on him and tried to claim the baby was his, the second cheated too and then went nuts when he left her and started talking to me). Some women are crazy. He doesn't actually talk about them that negatively though, just says they made bad choices in life really and that the baby one still is from what we've heard.

But if you're getting a dodgy vibe, probably best to listen to it and avoid this one.

yes, definitely red flags. Avoid, avoid, avoid.
Ditto a man calling an ex a psycho.

He's either the one who made them crazy or he's a liar. Either way run!

In my many years of being alive, I've never met a guy with lots of crazy exes who's actually turned out to be a nice, but just unlucky, guy. They always turn out to be a weird cunt.

One crazy ex is understandable maybe, any more than that and he is the common denominator!

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They always turn out to be a weird cunt.

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And I guess it's the "story of his life" too right? They can't all be wrong about him.

I understand that manipulative are attracted or target certain personality types, but I don't think that is the case here and he's trying to paint himself as a victim here to exploit your empathy.

That old chestnut..all past partners are nutters...alright take good care...next