Women who apologise for crap men

[Ceriane]

Do many of you know any women who are unbelievably naive and dumb about crap men, anything they do is “awww that’s soo sweet” and laugh hysterically at everything they say regardless of how much they are clearly a womaniser and make you feel like there is something wrong with you if you don’t go gaga over any tiny bit of make attention, even if you are not attracted to the man whatsoever. Nearly all of the women around here are like this and I sometimes feel like I’m going mad!

I think it’s learnt behaviour
Their deadbeat dads did fuck all, mums did everything so them getting anything at all is an absolute triumph.
Most people I know from families where the division of Labour/mental load was more equal do not act like this.

I don’t know anyone like it but I see it all the time on here

Socialization innit?

It's shit though and I don't stay friends with apologists.

I think a lot of women with not that much to offer on paper are always desparate to have a bloke in their lives or paying them attention , because the bloke adds meaning and purpose the way they see it

My mum is one of these.

I don't know where it came from - her dad was an amazing man.

She believes it's women's duty to stay at home and take care of men because they aren't really able to do it themselves. To the point where she attempted to sabotage me going to university because she thought it would prevent me from looking after a man properly and make me a less desirable prospect for marriage as a result.

To her, men are vulnerable, helpless, hapless victims of women. This attitude and her response to it has, over the years, been everything from mildly irritating, somewhat damaging, to sinister and is the reason we haven't had contact with her for 10 years.

My stepmother is exactly like this, 45 years of coercive control from her cunt husband. Bastards in hospital now and still controlling her from his bedside.

I actually think this is me

My dad definitely wasn’t dead beat (and I didn’t learn this off my mother) but my self confidence is terribly low. I am a people pleaser and have become aware that I am almost desperate for male attention. Have always been like this and I am very aware of how pathetic this is.

It is sad, but I think this is why a lot of women have affairs (I haven’t because it’s against my morals and I really don’t think anyone would with me anyway )

Sorry I had more!
I don’t necessarily apologise for bad men but make excuses for their behaviour. Or even don’t disclose their poor behaviour to others, so that they don’t think bad of them