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Unreasonable

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Rushmom3 · 22/04/2021 22:46

16 year 3 children fully committed to him and children stay home mum when bring up engagement always says you no there's not enough to put by of course I do and now he's got more well payed job doesn't seem to factor in its not like I'm constantly going on more when my children want no when mummy and daddy are getting married I've have told him a simple ring all ask for noting costing 1000s am I unreasonable or is not on his cards

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ovenandpans · 22/04/2021 23:13

I think it's both
You are not being unreasonable but he doesn't want to
Not sure what you can do though other than demand a straight answer and not leading you on

BlueDahlia69 · 23/04/2021 04:20

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Crimeismymiddlename · 23/04/2021 22:49

You are both NBU, you have a right to want get married he has a right not to. However you are a SAHP with no job which puts you in a terrible position. Maybe have a back up plan just in case and accept your DP does not want to get married, or you could leave and find someone who does.

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