Lazy sods

[ohsovirgo]

If your current or ex partner was/is a lazy bastard - can you no look back at your early days together and see the signs?

For example my ex would -

• let the dishes pile up (unrinsed) for days
• shower only when necessary never brushed teeth (ever)
• leave clothes shopping to older female relatives (they would also dispose of any that were tattered or didn't fit anymore)
• had no hobbies or interests outside of gaming/ watching films or tv
• didn't read books (would just skim reviews)

Mind if anyone were coming round suddenly it as all systems go to clean etc and be seen. Glad that's behind me

What could you now see were warning signs? How did/do you cope?

He sounds like a disgusting slob, not just lazy.

I wouldn't care as I've never wanted to live with a boyfriend but the no teeth brushing would be very annoying.

@YouAreTheStorm "not housetrained" is how they describe it

@Bananalanacake we didn't live together so took a while before I realised it.

There's often so many comments about men doing nothing at all around the house and it's worse when children are added in that it made me wonder if in retrospect there were always indicators.

You dont really know someone until you live with them... i guess seeing their home before you live with them is a key indicator of how they live.

I think most men leave it to women to do everything... sometimes i think its easier to have a partner but not live with them...

@Lozzerbmc you've made a fair point re not knowing someone until you live with them

I had an ex whose life literally revolved around the pub and the golf course. Zero interest in anything that didn't include the pub or the golf course, even offering to take him away for a weekend couldn't tear him away from the pub/golf. Such a sad, pathetic life.

I think never brushing your teeth shouldn't be in the lazy category. That's rank. Even lazy People brush their teeth.

Not brushing teeth is just really disgusting. How did he ever become your partner?!

@Nonmaquillee

Not brushing teeth is just really disgusting. How did he ever become your partner?!

Showers when necessary (i.e. just before meet-ups) and mouthwash followed by mints When I finally clocked.... most cringey revelation of my life

@JorisBonson

I think never brushing your teeth shouldn't be in the lazy category. That's rank. Even lazy People brush their teeth.

Fair play

Either way if you'd seen that while dating or any of the other things mentioned here, surely you wouldn't expect help after marriage?

@Nonmaquillee

Not brushing teeth is just really disgusting. How did he ever become your partner?!

Exactly what I'm wondering