We have a 3-year-old child. We're brilliant parents, business partners and run a beautiful home full of trust and respect BUT there is no emotional connection or intimacy (in the broadest sense from physical touch to sex) There has always been a mismatch in our emotional and intimate needs in that I have always wanted more but there was a baseline I was happy to accept. Things have now fallen way below that baseline and despite everything else being wonderful I want a romantic partner and right now I don't have one.
We started couples therapy a few months ago and her diagnosis is that this is nothing to do with me or our relationship it's to do with his mental health (he's showing signs of depression) his childhood, unresolved trauma, and his neurodiversity.
We are now at a crossroads as he has said he doesn't believe he is capable of being a romantic partner, nor does he want to be one. He has said he doesn't think he can give me what I need but he's unsure if this is real or if it's his mental health or lockdown or a combination of all the things.
We have just immigrated to a new country 6 months ago and he is the sole carer of our three year old whilst I work.
I'm very confused and scared and lonely and would really appreciate hearing from anyone else who's in a similar situation or if you know of any support groups I can join.