Break up support?

[lisamari]

I've posted on here before about me getting into a relationship with someone I was very close to for years. We broke up a bit ago because things didn't change but I continued to basically be with him just without the title- which I now know was stupid. A couple of days ago we completely broke up. He's already back to his old ways, talking to girls you know. I realise that since my daughters dad when I was 16 and he was 20, (we split because he was abusive) I've always put myself down- looked for happiness in relationships( obviously don't get my child involved without time/ trust) but I just feel a bit helpless rn. Heartbroken- I feel it's finally time to work on myself and better myself and mine and my child's future but this is just so hard. My little girl has always been my main priority but I know bettering myself as a person- focusing on my studies and my health will better our future- I know I can get through it- I've been through worse but... Any advice?

Sorry you’re feeling like this. You are doing some really positive things though, which is great, so dont be too hard on yourself.

I wonder if when we have low self esteem we pick people who are just not good enough for us? I think I have done in past. Also I dont think we should look to relationships for happiness, as that comes from within us, but enrichment yes. My (wise) boss told me once only be with someone who enriches your life. Ive never forgotten his words.

Be kind to yourself

@Lozzerbmc thank you for the reply! Im trying to look at the positives and better my future rather than returning to a relationship that doesn't work. It's not as easy as I'd hoped.