I have been with my partner for 4 and a half years now. He moved in with me 4 years ago as him and his ex wife were selling the house they had together. He was 3 children with his ex wife and they stay with us 2 times a week. We now have a 10 month old together. There has always been drama with his ex wife where I am always the bad person which gets me down too.
He is very lazy and everything is getting too much. I'm working 4 long days a week at home and also caring for our 10 month old. He works 4 days on 4 off. Some weeks he doesn't even work the 4 days. I feel like I do the majority of the house chores including ensuring his kids have clothes and packed lunches etc for school. I feel he needs to help more but anytime I bring it up he promises to help does for a few days then back to square one. He says he will do things when he is ready which takes so long that I do it myself in the end. 1111Or I just get all I do is have a go at him.
He has also been doing our 'garden' for 4 years and it's in more of a mess now than when he started. He started taking down decking without even discussing it and it's my house. His name isn't on the mortgage.
The days he works me and my son have a good routine and I manage well working around caring for my son. When he's at home all he does it sit on the couch and watch TV. Never even offers to make me a cup of tea but l expects me to make him lunch.
My parents have noticed this for a while and discussed it with me last night which resulted in me crying saying I have had enough of it all.
I don't really no the point to my rambling I guess everything is too much and I don't know what to do