Potential half sister

[Fedup85]

So I separated from sons Dad a few months ago. He has denied that this little girl around 9 years old is his and he never paid CM for her. The mother of this girl doesnt know me (I dont think) However I applied for CM and I received a letter from them stating how much ex would eed to pay and this ammount is based on a number of things including that he is also paying for another child!
I knew he lied about not paying CM and he was sure that this little girl wasnt his (denial) she looks just like him
Anyway...i dont know if this is coincidence, but on that same day I got the letter his ex had 'liked' an old FB post I had publicly posted a while ago!
Not friends on fb and she isnt friends with ex either, there is no contact.

Im in two minds whether to make contact with her seeing as this little girl could very well be my sons half sister?? Any advice would be appreciated....thank you

How old is your son?

He is 3 and half

Nothing ventured nothing gained. It would be nice for your children to know each other. What's the worst that can happen? She says no

I know. My ex told me she was a psycho ...but arnt they all 🙄
I must add that I do have 2 other children from ex husband, so its not like my youngest is an only child. My other 2 are similar age to this little girl

I'd contact her. I'd want to know if he was paying CS. If he isn't but is pretending that he is, I'd make sure the mother of his dd and the child maintenance people are made aware of that

If his ex was a psycho, then so are you. I think the definition of psycho where ex-girlfriends/wives are concerned is not able to take shitty behaviour on the chin.

I'd get to know the mother first. It could go either way, but that she has made a first move seems positive.

Ive done it...messaged her and she is his...she also told me of another potential child...thanks for your advice...lets see how this pans out

So there’s at least one other potential half sibling out there who he, presumably, also doesn’t stay in contact with? And who, from his CMS forms, he isn’t paying maintenance for?

What a shitty excuse for a ‘father’ - has he stayed in contact with the DC you’ve had with him so far?

He has our son EOW...no contact at all with the others, however I found out last night that he pays CM to oneof the others, has done for 10 years after saying to me he doesnt £400 a month!

Also found out there is another girl he got pregnant
So my 3 year old has a 10 year old half sister and also half brother