Did anyone ever have evil in their life?

[Iwant2D]

I have an estranged family member in my life. Estranged for some years. Its a messed up estrangement. I got the messages - 'you're dead to me' but I wasn't really dead to her. The woman something out of me like attention or to fix the broken relationship and she harassed me for a number of years carrying out several different acts of dirt and revenge. The most scariest part is that she is never satisfied with her acts and she pounces again and again. I implemented all the measures that I am supposed to do when in this position - like change number, limit social media, warn others etc, not responding. Just last week my employer got a fresh round of messages from the woman. I actually feel sick to my stomach. I was doing OK up to this point and I shrugged a lot off. Now I think I might have anxiety. I actually do feel sick in my stomach with nerves or anxiety. Thinking what else, when is it going to stop, did the employer block her or have they left it open for more, has she stopped or is she still doing it? I'm dreading the week ahead not knowing what's ahead of me.
I am waiting on contact back from a solicitor to take civil action. The police isn't interested in pursuing this in a criminal manner because there's no violence from her.

Om sorry you're going through this Iwant2D.
I don't have any experience, but I think you're doing the right thing by speaking to a solicitor.
Im surprised the police aren't helping, this sounds like a real case of harassment!
Have you got all messages and contacts this person has sent? The fact they're contacting your boss is extreme.
I hope you get some peace soon 💐

Can I get some advice please?

I heard back from a solicitor who can give me a phone consultation either tomorrow morning or Friday morning and the charge is 75.

I am afraid of something in that taking civil action might escalate her behaviour. So far the woman and her behaviour is ignored. I think anyone half decent, if they received a letter in the post from a solicitor, they would take it and park whatever emotional issues they have. I am afraid of the possibility of fuelling her anger.

I'm kinda stuck what to do and what appointment to take. Do I take Tuesdays appointment in the hope a letter is sent before the end of the week or do I wait for the appointment that is later in the week so that I can gather up all the history of abuse, etc and give me space and time to gather my thoughts. How do you explain crazy over the phone?

Sorry to ask, have you posted about this before? There was something last week about someone going to domes employer. If it's not you it would be worth trying to find.

I would take the spot tomorrow. Get all of this out to the solicitor and then ask them what they suggest. That's what the £75 is for x

Four signs of stalking are fixated, obsessive, unwanted, repeated. There absolutely does not need to be violence for police to act, only evidence. Keep a record of everything. Keep every message. Stalking helpline is 0808 802 0300.

This sounds horrible for you. I have recently had a small dose of this with a woman in my group sending malicious emails about me to others in the group and she has also threatened to shred my reputation - scary.
Keep an harassment diary, get help from the stalking helpline and don't give up on the police - keep making complaints - she is a fucking nasty stalker and it is against the law.

You need to go back to the police, you are eing stalked and harassed which is illegal, unfortunately a legal letter may inflame the situation further as it's simply a piece of paper essentially telling her off, but the police have powers.

The police will absolutely be interested. This is National Stalking Awareness Week. For more information, see the Suzy Lamplugh Trust website and the Paladin National Stalking Advocacy Service website.

As PP have said, go back to the police. This is a crime. There doesn’t need to be physical violence. This is psychological and emotional violence. You might also want to talk to the National Centre for Domestic Violence about a non-molestation order. They are available against family members.

Absolutely take the solicitors appointment! It's really important and he can help. And definitely go back to the police. Have you documented the incidents? (Eg date time actual incident). So sorry, OP, this must be frightening. I do hope it all sorts out!