Online Dating

[zetecxti]

as anyone else just had enough of the struggles of dating and decide just to no longer bother?

Recently turned 39 and can honestly say i can't see myself ever meeting anyone for a long term relationship. Have been single for many years and just never seem to meet anyone i find attractive or click with. The amount of shit on 'dating sites' you have to go through to find anyone decent or not an abuser.

The final straw was another guy that said he loved me and wanted me to marry him. We had never even met for crying out loud. Was called a C**t because i said i didn't want to meet and that telling someone they love a stranger isn't normal behaviour.

Seriously what the fuck is wrong with some people on these internet 'dating' websites?

I gave up a couple of months ago, decided I was enjoying single life anyway and couldn't be doing with dating any more.

Then I got asked out in real life by a guy who I've now been seeing for the last few weeks and it's all going wonderfully!

Funny how things turn out

@GentlemanJay

From a mans point of view. It's just as bad!

Thank you for giving us a man's point of view. We really needed it.

We never get men on this forum turning up to these threads again & again to make sure their voices are heard, to make sure the women folk know that things are just as bad on their side, even on a forum that that's actually meant for women.

We would absolutely never know this otherwise.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you @GentlemanJay

🙄

@earthsight

That was nasty! A few PPs HAD actually asked if it was the same for men!!

[quote Sonaftersonafterson]@earthsight

That was nasty! A few PPs HAD actually asked if it was the same for men!![/quote]
Fair enough - must have missed it as it wasn't directly quoted in the response.

I had another go at online dating recently. I was ghosted by someone who seemed promising. We only had one date (which seemed to go well) but if he didn't want to see me again he could have just said. I find it all quite draining.

Same thing has just happened to me @hellospringflower ! After he said he wanted to do it again as well. It’s so disheartening, I think I’m going to delete the apps altogether. It’s just one disappointment after another.

ColdHandsColdFeetWarmHeart

But HOW do you get asked out in real life? I hardly have a social life (single parent), no one at my gym… it’s impossible!

This makes me so sad to read..but I get it. My friend had such terrible luck and has given up. I’ve recently spilt from a 5yr relationship of who I met online and honestly thought we’d be together years, it’s scary how decieving they can be.

@Gettingonwithit12 - Crap isn't it. I know you are mean't to treat online dating "as a numbers game" but the chap I went on the date with was the first one I'd liked for ages and we even had a goodnight kiss and he said he'd like to meet up again.

Maybe give yourself a little break from online dating. Hope you meet the right one.

I treated it as a numbers game in the end, I was absolutely brutal and treated them how I was treated.
I had my fill of married, grubby, lying, cheating idiots though. The ones that especially grate are the ones that turn it sexual before you've even met and punctuate with "lol" to try and make themselves seem cheeky.
You can't read chemistry through text so I set up dates within a week, if there were no flutters I let them down gently and blocked if they got nasty. (A lot did, the male ego is a fragile thing)
Eventually found a lovely guy, we spent 18 months together. We would still be together but we had settled for each other. We weren't perfect, but it would do. In the end and I finished with him in favour of an old friend. Quite selfish of me, but it was the right decision for me, I'm blissfully happy now and we are moving in together soon.

Tl;Dr
Numbers game, be brutal, block block block, look elsewhere too, he might be right there...

@Dontsayyouloveme

ColdHandsColdFeetWarmHeart

But HOW do you get asked out in real life? I hardly have a social life (single parent), no one at my gym… it’s impossible!

I'm a single mum too & it was just a rare night out watching a band in a pub!

ColdHandsColdFeetWarmHeart ahh right! ☺️

Make sure you look approachable if you want to be asked out in public. The sort of man who chats you up without you sending any indicators of interest is most likely a an undesirable man.

From my friends' experiences on dating sites (men and women), I would never touch any of those sites with a bargepole.

I am back on the apps. New year fresh start but meh...

So many guys who aren't really sure what they want, I have loads of offers for sex or FWB but mention the relationship word and they run for the hills.

@zetecxti

as anyone else just had enough of the struggles of dating and decide just to no longer bother?

Recently turned 39 and can honestly say i can't see myself ever meeting anyone for a long term relationship. Have been single for many years and just never seem to meet anyone i find attractive or click with. The amount of shit on 'dating sites' you have to go through to find anyone decent or not an abuser.

The final straw was another guy that said he loved me and wanted me to marry him. We had never even met for crying out loud. Was called a C**t because i said i didn't want to meet and that telling someone they love a stranger isn't normal behaviour.

Seriously what the fuck is wrong with some people on these internet 'dating' websites?

OMG Someone on OLD did this to me. Went crazy when I would not say it back as we had never met. Wondering if it's the same guy??