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Has he blocked me?

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:12

Long story short:

Met a guy online, lots of chatting and Zooming over a couple of months, we have a lot in common and got on really well. Met in person twice for walks. After a bit of confusion (he admitted to sending mixed messages) we agreed that we were only going to be friends. All fine.

Anyway, one week on, he messages me yesterday on Whatsapp saying "I will completely understand if you're busy but if you want to walk tomorrow let me know". We exchange many messages during the day with chitchat, and discussing and arranging where to meet. I told him I was visiting friends for a BBQ early evening and would come back to him to finish the discussion later in the evening. I do that, responding to some comments he made, and none of my messages have delivered. This was last night.

Before I jump to the conclusion (highly likely but surprising) that he's blocked me, does anyone with technical knowledge know if there could be any other reason why messages wouldn't be delivered on Whatsapp for 12 hours?

I'm fully prepared to accept that I dodged a bullet if he has blocked me.

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FAQs · 18/04/2021 08:14

WiFi gone down ?

mildlymiffed · 18/04/2021 08:15

It wouldn't deliver if he had his phone on airplane mode, or if he has no signal, or if his phone is switched off.

I think that if he blocks you, you wouldn't be able to see his profile picture on WhatsApp.

Bluntness100 · 18/04/2021 08:15

Phone off.

You do seem very invested in him..

AdaThorne · 18/04/2021 08:16

Phone is off overnight or he has no wifi.

AnnieJ1985 · 18/04/2021 08:16

A WhatsApp I sent my friend at 9pm yesterday is still showing as unread/undelivered. Very unlikely she has cut me off! It is saying she was last online yesterday afternoon, which is also v unlikely. Maybe WA is playing up?

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:16

@FAQs

WiFi gone down ?

His? surely then Whatsapp would switch to 4G?

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:17

@Bluntness100

Phone off.

You do seem very invested in him..

Not invested at all. But we had made plans for today and now I don't know if they're happening or not and wondering whether to email him - or to let it go.

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Ging7878 · 18/04/2021 08:18

Are you still able to see his profile picture?

Sideorderofchips · 18/04/2021 08:19

Phone off. Or in a room with no signal to WiFi or very little

rainbowthoughts · 18/04/2021 08:20

Oh don't email him! If he had an issue with WhatsApp he would be able to let you know by sending a text, or similarly, an email.

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:20

@Ging7878

Are you still able to see his profile picture?

Yes

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Lampan · 18/04/2021 08:20

I think there a glitch sometimes. I have a friend who I frequently whatapp and often just have one grey tick for hours. Yet I can still see their location on Find my Friends. So I don’t think you can tell. If he blocked you his profile picture wouldn’t be visible.

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:21

@rainbowthoughts

Oh don't email him! If he had an issue with WhatsApp he would be able to let you know by sending a text, or similarly, an email.

Good point!

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litterbird · 18/04/2021 08:23

I have my whatsapp setting set so no one can see if its been delivered, read or when I was last online. He could have set his settings to that yesterday. You could call him? Much easier really.

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:25

@Lampan

Ok. This is helpful, thanks. I can still see his profile picture so I will give him the benefit of the doubt.

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Ging7878 · 18/04/2021 08:27

If he had blocked you his picture would have disappeared so its not that. I think he's switched his phone off for whatever reason. I would just leave it now and see what response you get once he gets the messages and replies. Very annoying when it was him that made the suggestion in the first place.

Lovelydiscusfish · 18/04/2021 08:29

Can you still see the time stamp (if he has it on)? If you can, you’re not blocked, I believe.

A while ago my phone just lost the ability to charge at all. I had to get a new one and obviously couldn’t do that immediately. I did email my boyfriend to Iet him know I wasn’t ghosting him, but wouldn’t have bothered to do this if we weren’t an established item I don’t think.

And my boyfriend sometimes goes to stay with his best friend, whose support bubble he is, and has no signal at all where this guy lives (it’s an unusual place where there would be no signal, so I don’t think I am being lied to - obviously it’s possible that he just goes off and shags women for the night and doesn’t want me WhatsApping and putting him off his stroke, but I don’t think so....)

Other things that could happen - lost his phone? Had a row with someone so is avoiding WhatsApp totally for a while (have done this myself too). Too poorly to look at his phone? (Again, something I have done). Too pissed?

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions if I were you - if you are just friends it’s not a massive deal anyway - I would just let it ride for the moment and see if he pops back up.....

Sillyduckseverywhere · 18/04/2021 08:30

@mildlymiffed

It wouldn't deliver if he had his phone on airplane mode, or if he has no signal, or if his phone is switched off.

I think that if he blocks you, you wouldn't be able to see his profile picture on WhatsApp.

This is correct. If he's blocked you his profile pic disappears almost instantly. You can actually watch it go

Franke · 18/04/2021 08:31

Why don't you just text or email? If there's a problem with WhatsApp he might not have received your messages and think you've ghosted him or something.

Lovelydiscusfish · 18/04/2021 08:32

Oh sorry, I just read that you don’t know whether your plans to meet are still on or not. I’d ring him then. Why not? You need to know so you can decide what to do with your day. If I was due to meet a friend and didn’t know whether it was still on or not I would phone them. He’s not obliged to pick up if he doesn’t want to.

Or you could email him as you suggest.

If he is ghosting you for some bizarre unknown reason, who gives a fuck what he thinks - so ring or email him if you want to....

FAQs · 18/04/2021 08:37

Agree you sound quite invested, you say you are friends so not in a relationship?

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:45

Thanks all, this is really helpful.

To clarify - I'm not invested at all - just confused as we were in the middle of a conversation about where to meet today.

To those suggesting calling/emailing him that is definitely my next step but just wanted to check the technical factors of Whatsapp so that I didn't do that if it was obvious that he had blocked me (which doesn't appear to be the case given the profile picture visibility).

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/04/2021 08:46

Ha! and just as I wrote that my messages have now delivered.

As you were ...

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KenAddams · 18/04/2021 09:01

I know you have already siad it was delivered, but if my phone runs out of battery, I physically need to reopen what's app or my notifications don't come through (if that makes sense) I know what I'm trying to say lol

Lovelydiscusfish · 18/04/2021 10:24

@MumofPsuedoAdult

Ha! and just as I wrote that my messages have now delivered.

As you were ...

Excellent! Hope all is ok now.

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