Is this flirting or just jokey banter?

[Housewench]

Okay so me and my DH's best friend are friends. Usually we joke a lot together in a mean bantery way and that's the whole relationship really, and he's similar with my DH too.

We joke around a lot and he sometimes makes a sexual joke and then says "but I don't want to upset DH"

I don't know if I'm just over thinking it and taking it the wrong way because it's just banter or if it's actually flirting.
Me and DH have 2 toddlers, and DH's best friend doesn't have kids. So I feel like maybe I'm just over thinking it and it's just jokey banter because there's obviously not a huge appeal to single, childless men and mother's 😅

But then I'm worried maybe it could be flirting and if it is it's a bit inappropriate and should probably stop.

Please help if that made any sense at all. Thanks

He definitely should not be making sexual jokes. Unless you are enjoying it, it’s actually fairly creepy and a little abusive.
And if you are enjoying it... are you encouraging it or “just” enjoying a kind of flirtatious relationship with someone who isn’t your DH?
Of course it’s flirting if the sexual jokes are aimed at you..

Definitely crossing a line. I have banter with my DH's friends but if one of them said that, I'd be shocked. If he's making sexual jokes it's because he's testing the waters. Are you really that naive?

I’m surprised you’re ok with your DHs friend making sexual jokes to you, does your DH know?

It's completely inappropriate.
If your dh had a friendship like that with one of your friends then how would you feel about those comments between them?

Would he be doing this if your dh was present? Would you be comfortable with this if your dh was present?

He's crossing a line and testing your boundaries. I would shut him down and make it clear those comments are not welcome.

This can only backfire on you.

This man now has a certain power over you, you flirted with him, who knows in years to come how this could be used against you.

Don't be foolish, think of your husband for one, and also don't give someone ammunition against you.

He flirts with his best friend's wife, he's not a man to trust in any scenario.

We joke around a lot and he sometimes makes a sexual joke and then says "but I don't want to upset DH"

Sexual jokes about you and him? I mean, that is literally flirting. You know that, surely? The fact you don't think he would actually want to have sex with you doesn't make that not flirting...

Would you like it if your best friend spoke to your DH that way?

But then I'm worried maybe it could be flirting and if it is it's a bit inappropriate and should probably stop.

Making sexual jokes to your best friend's wife is always inappropriate. You really don't know that? He's no friend to your husband, or to you for that matter. Shows a complete lack of respect.

This sexualized ‘joking’ is flirtatious behavior and is highly disrespectful to your H. It’s a 2-way street and you’ve been participating by laughing and allowing it to continue.

This man is not a true friend of your marriage and family.