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I knew id feel like this.

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kkkazza · 12/11/2007 13:39

Hi, my hubby had an affair over 18 months ago. were still together and im sure the affair was over the minute i found out. The problem is, it was with someone from his work.There are two factory's he's been working in one and her in the other. He hasn't since or spoke to her since i found out, Thats one thing im sure of... The two factorys were to merg into one in september and since its now november the merging as run over but it's going to happen in two weeks time for sure. For the last 12months he asured me that e wouldn't be going and i wasn't to worry, but i have worried because i knew all along that e would go because es only a labourer and get's paid over £9 an hour and he wouldn't get that sort of money any were else.One of the problems ive had is trying to get him to be striaght with me so i can come to terms with him going their.I feel like his been lieing to shut me up.2nd problem i have no idea how im gonna cope with him being there.please any advice i really need it. ps i have been on ea b4 but it was some time ago. u might remember my story.

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captainmummy · 14/11/2007 14:24

kkk-i've been watching this thread waiting for someone else to come and offer some good advice, other than - maybe you should just trust him? If you can't trust him, you are going to tearing yourself apart, without him actually having to do anything.
If you feel he's lying to you, then get proof, otherwise it'll eat you up.
Yousay you don't like him going there - but if he can't get that sort of money anywhere else (and there is no good reason for him to leave) then you'll just have to cope, I'm afraid. He sounds like he cant do anything right - can't work there, can't work elsewhere.
sorry.

MitfordSisters · 14/11/2007 18:58

kkkazza, do you think he's been less than honest about the merger then? i understand your pain, as it means that he might lie about other stuff too.

If you can say to him that it's important for you to know the truth and he knows you not trying to get at him for the affair he might be more open. Try to be calm when you discus it with him - if you need a rant or cry talk to friends or family you trust

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