Pregnant and rocky relationship

[jorisbonsonstoupe]

I'm due a baby later this year and over the moon. After a long marriage I have a new partner of 14 months and the baby was a surprise.

I'm not over the moon about my relationship though, I'm still grieving my marriage which was good until the end. I was treated well by my husband and have gorgeous growing up children.

My new partner is a man child. Doesn't contribute financially or in the home, emotionally not great, moody, storms off regularly.

I do however love him and he is loyal, gives all his time to me. He will be a good Father.

I feel like he will never be able to live up to my ex husband and I'm being unfair expecting him to live up to that and provide me with what I want and need.

For this reason (and the fact that he doesn't work much) we have frequent, volatile arguments. The stress and tears are getting to me.

I've tried half heartedly to end the relationship, he doesn't want this. But I just feel like I want to be on my own and can't see what I'm getting out of the relationship.

Would I be unfair to end the relationship or should I keep trying for the sake of the family. Financially I'm fine.

@jorisbonsonstoupe

I have a business I can work around the baby and have plenty of money from the divorce.

I think the comment about him not wanting to leave as I am finding him is partly true. But he says he loves me hmmm

Of course he says that, he's cocklodging at yours.

Anyone can say they love you. If they throw strips, refuse to pull their weight and punish you with the silent treatment when they feel like it - they do not love you. Look at a persons actions.

we have frequent, volatile arguments

Which means he needs to go, now, before the baby arrives. Take the blinders off, op.

*strops

Throwing strips might be better 🙂that's another thing, he has Intermittent ED.

Making him even more appealing 🙈

we have frequent, volatile arguments

OP do you really think this is a healthy environment for a baby?

Doesn't contribute financially or in the home, emotionally not great, moody, storms off regularly.

How on earth can you say this and say he will be a "good father"?!

I wonder why you feel he will be a good father. Nobody can tell if they will be a good parent until the child is here.

What you do know is he is not a good partner!

He has the potential to be a good Father.

@jorisbonsonstoupe

He has the potential to be a good Father.

In that he has a penis and job?

Because in your words he "doesn't contribute financially or in the home, emotionally not great, moody, storms off regularly."

That isn't potential, it's a shit father in the making. He's not even pretending otherwise!

• Doesn't contribute financially or in the home, emotionally not great, moody, storms off regularly.

I do however love him and he is loyal, gives all his time to me. He will be a good Father.*

These two statements don’t match up!
He’s a cocklodging twat!

@HerMammy

* Doesn't contribute financially or in the home, emotionally not great, moody, storms off regularly.

I do however love him and he is loyal, gives all his time to me. He will be a good Father.*

These two statements don’t match up!
He’s a cocklodging twat!

Sums it all up.

Denial isn't just a river in Egypt.