My son and his wife want me to move in with them when I retire in a few years time, I only have one child.
We all get on very well but I'm not sure. I want to retire to the sea. I miss the sea so much, I had to move away from the sea for work.
It would really benefit everyone to live together as we can pool our money and get a really big place instead of two small ones, I've always wanted a bigger garden and would be more than happy to live in a granny annexe at the bottom of the garden and it would be nice for me to have someone to do my shopping and what have you when I can't get out anymore.
It would be better for them, they could work part time and retire early.
But they live in the midlands and I hanker for the sea and don't want to live in the midlands, they don't want to move because my DiL is black and where I live is not a multi racial area and she would hate it and I can't possibly expect her to live anywhere where she might be racially abused she's such a wonderful person and we have always got on.
I think maybe I'm being very selfish, I don't know what to do. I don't want to be stuck in north Devon miles away from anyone when I am old either but I worry about giving up my independence completely.