I am feeling absolutely useless since my separation 4 years ago and finding increasingly hard to cope with all the responsibilities. My ex is supposed to coparent with me but the majority is left to me. Today, I told my ex that I did not like our eldest son attitude since he turned 18, he think that he can do whatever he wants because he is now 18, I don’t have many rules in my house, my kids have a lot of freedom, the rules are doing their best in school, no tv in their bedroom, let me know if they are not going home for dinner, no girlfriend overnight during school week (no issue for the girlfriend to stay during the weekend or holiday). Reply from ex is yes our son is spending too much time with his girlfriend but his school work is ok and he is 18 now so he can do what he wants. No wonder I am going no where and our son doesn’t show me any respect by disobeying the rules as his dad let up him do whatever he wants when he is at his place, I am always the one who has to be the bad guy as the ex never say no to him or our other kids. I had issue a few months back with our younger son, I refused to buy a video game as he was missing too much of his online classes and my ex knew about it but what the ex did, he bought the game. He bought as well tv for their bedrooms in his place even for the 6 years old despite when we were together he did agree that there should be no tv in their bedroom. If any issue arise with the kids I always tell my ex but on his side very rarely he will tell me anything, and if he did It will be me that will have to sort out the problem, an example of an issue that has arisen was that last year each time my daughter came back from his place, she had lice. After complaining about the lice infection for months to him, he suddenly realised that the problem was one of the girls our daughter was playing in his estate but instead of sorting it himself, I had to contact the parents despite not knowing them as he did not want to do it as he said they were dirty., I had to contact the mother myself and she was absolutely lovely about the situation, I told her that my daughter has lice and because she was spending so much time with her daughter, I wanted to let her know just in case her daughter got them because of our daughter. The mother treated the child and since no more issue with lice. Ex will never have sorted the issue since he did not affect him, I was the one having to do the lice treatment after each visit to his place, I was spending a fortune on lice treatment for 3 months before he finally told the source of the problem. I am so fed up to always be the bad guy that I am thinking he should have the kids constantly like that when I see them ever fortnight they will be no argument and I would have a clean house instead of the mess I am living. So fed up.