Does it get easier?

[BarbiesWorld]

After being miserable and resentful in my marriage for far too long I asked H for a divorce 2 months ago.

We're still living together as I'm struggling to find a rental property and it's really fucking hard. He's happily on tinder and acting like we're friends. Despite knowing I'm doing the best thing long term, I'm heartbroken and really finding the whole situation difficult.

Does it get easier? When does it get easier?

It gets easier. If he can switch off that easily then the marriage was definitely dead. Give it 6 months. It took me that long to find a place, move, sort paperwork etc...

I woke up one morning in my own bed and just felt light as a feather that it was over and I was finally free.

When you are going through hell... just keep going!

You’ve done the hard bit and at least he’s not aggressive, resentful, nasty etc.

You’ll get there - try and ignore him being on tinder and being happy...

Ditto what Peace43 said. Hang in there. Are you sleeping in separate rooms? I had a few months with my ex before he found a place. It helped to have my own space to retreat to.

@Peace43

It gets easier. If he can switch off that easily then the marriage was definitely dead. Give it 6 months. It took me that long to find a place, move, sort paperwork etc...

I woke up one morning in my own bed and just felt light as a feather that it was over and I was finally free.

When you are going through hell... just keep going!

Thank you. Oh it was dead as a dodo but I'm grieving for the life I thought we were going to have if that makes sense?

It's keeping it together for the kids that's keeping me going but even that is getting more difficult. They're so small and I've basically just ruined their lives.

@dudsville

Ditto what Peace43 said. Hang in there. Are you sleeping in separate rooms? I had a few months with my ex before he found a place. It helped to have my own space to retreat to.

He's in the 5 year olds bed now so it's lovely and cosy with me bed sharing with 2 kids. It would be amazing if we had separate spaces of our own but our house is tiny.