I fee, like my ex acts like a sad sausage victim. We split about a year ago and he wants me back.
To recap. He had an affair. He opened a joint account with her. Moved out to be with her. During that time I was pretty much in the dark and said we needed a break. Whilet he was, living under the same roof as me who would text her, talk to her. My mental health suffered. He told me we argued all the time and that was why he did it. When asked him why does he want me back he said "I feel I could put up with you now".
He's charming to the kids. My daughter can see through it but I get very down about the whole thing.
He's still in our old house. I got legal advice. I can force him to sell. The house is in a bad state. So I need to clear the back garden and get the remains of my stuff. I've just had a patio and a new shed at my new house. I've arranged more here in the last year than decades of living with him.
My son in particular who's 16 is struggling. He sees me as the instigator of this split. I am wondering whether to talk to him about the above. So he understands why. What advice would anyone give me? I know he deserves a relationship with his father.