How do I find out if she is interested?

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I have been attracted to women for some years, but have never had a relationship with one.

For the last 6 months I have become extremely attracted to someone I see on a regular basis. She works in a place I frequent. I find myself making any excuse to go there, and so disappointed if she is not around when I do.

She has children, as do I. I've no idea if she is attracted to women. She is however masculine in her appearance (not sure if that means anything).

I'm quite shy. I do enjoy chatting with her but can't come straight out and ask her in case it is a no and I completely humiliate myself.

I don't use social media so can't see if on the off chance she has anything on there that would say either way.

Is there any subtle way I can find out if she feels the same way without coming right out with it?

Are you both single? I guess you could bring up relationships and say you’re bisexual/lesbian and see how she responds as a first port of call?

Thanks for answering. I believe so. She did talk about her ex in the context of fixing her car so I'm assuming male. I know that would have been an in for me to work in to the conversation that I was bisexual but I just felt it far too forward and intimate for a light conversation in a public place and couldn't do it.

Does she look pleased to see you? Makes time to speak with you? Are you friendly enough to say ‘I really enjoy talking to you, here is my number if you fancy getting a coffee some time’
Then get to know her as a friend first
Safer approach than asking her out when you don’t even know if she is single or not etc

I think she does @JobHunting10.

I have asd and although I've managed relatively well my 50+ years I find it hard to know if someone likes me or is just humouring me. It's a sales type role she has, so I feel that she has to seem interested and pleasant to me even if she doesn't feel it.

Wouldn't offering her my number make it obvious to her that I liked her in that way? I really don't want to make it so plain that that is how I feel. Ugh I sound about 15

Invite her for a low-key drink somewhere, public health policy permitting and see what happens?

Nah you could frame it in a way such as ‘friendly drink’

Thanks for the advice all. Next time I see her I will attempt to try to find out a bit more about her. I just wish it came easier to me.

I will work towards inviting her on a dog walk as we both have dogs. I just suspect that that alone will take me forever to work up to!