Cheating lying loser husband

[MaverickMum86]

I've been with my husband for 18 years. I recently discovered (thanks to some super sleuthing) that he has been having it off with some two-bit t@rt for the past 18 months. Think it started about 6 months before covid hit our shores.
Anyway, when I confronted him, he actually had the gall to blame ME for his selfishness and weakness. The other woman is actually the same age (39) but is not married and has no kids. He said pregnant has ruined my body; apparently, though I never gained much weight, yet stretchmarks and "baggy fanny" from giving birth to HIS 2 offspring have rendered me useless and unattractive. Oh, and the fact that I'm sometimes too tired or busy to drop my knickers or make him the full focus of my attention. What baffles me is why he is begging me to let him stay if I am SO repulsive and SHE is so perfect. He met her on Tinder BTW (if that makes any difference).

Dogs go dogging

Absolutely no chance in hell would he be anywhere near me....... get rid of him. He’s a disgusting excuse of a man. As another poster said don’t you dare do the pick me dance. Tell him to fuck off. Your worth far much more than this x

I can't really give you advice as I'm in kind of a similar position - but even if there was no cheating involved, what he said to you about your body after giving birth to HIS children is absolutely disgusting and says everything you need to know about him. Even if there was no cheating involved, those comments alone would do it for me. He has no respect and as the mother of his children you deserve that.

Oooh he's a right prick, isn't he? Disgusting.

The bit about meeting at empty car parks and "dogging" sites makes me wonder whether she is also married.. That might explain why he wants/needs to stay with you despite his despicable comments.
Whatever you end up doing, just dont fall for any tricks, change of heart, remorse etc he may employ to manipulate you.

Oh my goodness.

He blamed you for him having to go digging with a tinder find. Digging! Eeewwww. What a sleeze.

Do you want to go nuclear or just go to a solicitor and get this sorted out.

Personally I would go solicitor, get all details sorted and begin thinking about how the future is going to be with you and kids.

Cheating, dogging, begging, not a great look. But it's your baggy fanny's fault yes?

I emailed a solicitor today to get the ball rolling (husband is none the wiser). Having a major pampering session at the hairdressers/beauticians tomorrow (using HIS** money ). Also, am starting a university course in September which Will lead to a bright and prosperous new career so I don't feel.totally hopeless. Difficult to rid myself of this awful punched-in-the-stomach feeling though.

I'd start university a free and single woman, OP. In fact I'd set that low life free before then if I could afford to do it.

Oh God OP, I’m in a similar situation only no children involved. That feeling in your stomach will come and go, just as the anger, the bouts of crying and feelings of hopelessness and the feelings of positivity. You are in for a rollercoaster of emotions and it will test you. But know this.. you are worth more than him and his Willy warmer. You put yourself and your kids first and leave him to his nastiness. You will come out on top.

What an absolute loser, how dare he talk shit to you like that?

Let her keep her "prize", you are worth so much more than this bullshit.

How awful he is to behave so sleezily & to say such mean spirited nasty things to you. How does these guys justify it in their heads? Or is it just his willy doing all the thinking... You can do better...let his two-bit ho have him. He can watch you thrive from afar with your new course & better life without him in it...

So sorry you are going through this. Big hugs . I totally get where you are coming from. It would be easier if the OW didn’t know that he was married amd had kids but when they do in my eyes they are just as much to blame . BUT confronting her will not do you any good. I have stayed for the kids and to get my ducks in a row but my MH is shit . I am not going to say LTB or to stay. Only you can say that. But for me . I can except what he done but I cannot forgive or forget . He’s excused was he was lonely 🤷‍♀️ If he was lonely then what the hell was I. My only advice is to think of yourself. Can you live with this person after doing what he has done and said ?? Only you know that.

Wow, Cheating, lying , loser DH is also my pet name for my husband. And yes , also slept with an OW who knew he was married .
Get yourself organised and get rid of him. Not only is he all of the above , he is also a sleazy creep. As is mine.
Sod off losers.