Friends, FWB or more??

[Roxy75]

So years ago I was seeing a guy who I really fell for. I wanted more than he felt ready for. I think he enjoyed my company but was not wanting commitment. It hurt but I ended it. I was upset for a bit but I moved on. Was in a relationship for 7 years which was quite unhappy. I left at the start of this year to build my life again. Now bloke number 1 is back on the scene. Messages me lots. Always a fair amount of kisses on the end. The other night he video called me to show me the sunset he was sitting watching. Just cos he thought I'd like to see it. I adore this guy but I don't know what he wants from me. Friends? More? I am so confused. How do I clarify what this is without the embarrassing rejection. Help...

There is only one way, you ask him where are we going here?

I don't want to feel like I felt years ago though. I'm living in a happy hopeful bubble. I know I'm pathetic.

Easy, open it up with a breezy “do you remember how I had this massive crush on you back in the day? I wonder what would have happened if we’d gotten together?.” Make it sound like a more whimsical wistful vibe than a current, active one. See how he responds.

The problem with bubbles is that they always burst at some point.

If you're going to get hurt when it does burst, the hurt will be less the sooner it does.

He knows he hurt me back then and has apologised.
I am so annoyed with myself for feeling like this again. He has no confidence in himself and how he looks. I think he is adorable.