What are your stories about misogynistic men at work?

[clairemelon]

Just that really! Hoping to make myself feel better as dealing with a vile boss at work who despite my feeling positive and jolly, reduced me to tears within a matter of minutes. This in itself has made me angry as I rarely cry and I hate that he now knows he got under my skin.
He's also slyly personal and never gives compliments.
Anyone have similar issues in the past?

"I can't say what I really think, as we have a lady in the office now." Male colleague on the phone.

I finished top of my year in a vocational, traditionally male, degree course, having won most of the awards over the 3 years. All the milkround publicity about diversity was just bollocks. The guys with connections got jobs, the posh lads got jobs with the posh companies, etc. Advised not to wear a wedding ring to interviews.

"No-one will give you a job, they won't get their money's worth from you" - male vice-chairman of said profession.

Apparently someone used me as an example as a loss to the profession in a report, tho I've never seen it.

I made a lot of money working for myself instead...

Ask the women in the Cabinet, if they are ever allowed to speak in cabinet meetings.

I currently have a passive aggressive one. Firing off incident reports about my team...despite them doing their job, demanding to others that we work longer hours despite it not being in our contracts, working elsewhere because it suits.
He never comes directly to me. I look after my team and he knows I do.
He will get an exactly what I think email...in a very professional manner tomorrow...Bc'd into the union rep too.

Way to go ladies for doing well at your job, having sound principles and always doing the right thing.

@Clairemelon
Always create a log of everything that is not appropriate
Document everything, make sure that the log is extensive - unless it's sexual harassment etc.
Save inappropriate emails
Compliments shouldn't be expected.
Make sure you get your shit together with evidence.
Good luck

I started a new job as a manager and the guy who was assistant manager couldn’t cope with me being female. Everything I directed him to do he questioned, never once did he just do what he was supposed to do. I was working in a male dominated industry which was quite physically dangerous but he still wouldn’t follow instructions. Our department worked closely with others and he ended up getting in a lot of trouble as it was obvious that he wasn’t following instructions and lost his job. He was allowed to work his notice period and overnight he turned into the most compliant, helpful assistant I’d ever had, apparently he’d been annoyed that I was his boss and asked me to put in a good word for him but it was too late.

My mum worked in a shop as a department assistant manager and the overall manager interviewed her for department manager but gave the job to a man with no previous experience. He then asked my mum to train him for the role!! She walked out and straight into a much better job so it worked out, but how insulting!

Male boss when I was in my early 20s and in a team of women ranging in age from me (youngest) to mid-40s. Referred to by boss as ‘the girls’. Had my head patted and was called a ‘good girl’. 😡. Had to listen to him explain why he hadn’t hired an interview candidate: ‘I liked her for the wrong reasons...(slaver)’. 🤮

Interview situation. I was the preferred candidate and just had to meter the 'big boss' which I was told is just a formality. The manager rang me in advance and said he could be a bit strange at times . I went to this final interview. He asked what my husband did and what my childcare arrangements- nothing about my ability to do the job. I didn't get the job. (Thankfully!). But I was mad about it for ages. It was a FTSE 100 with UK HQ in Weybridge

I used to attend meetings with male colleagues. At the first one a female staff member brought in a trolly with tea, biscuits etc, and then left. Big boss asks me to pour tea etc. At the next meeting, he looked over at me. I said "I poured tea at the last meeting. There are 8 of us here so it will be my turn again in 7 weeks. OK?"

I enjoyed that.

@memberofthewedding

I worked in newspapers for years so I could write a book. First time I went off on maternity my boss told me "dont worry I'll do my best to keep your job open for you". 2nd time a different make boss replaced me whilst off on mat leave. I returned and she left. Other stories include a colleague being made redundant because she was now a single mum and it could become tricky if the kids were unwell. This was openly discussed in the office.

There are really dated outlooks in the newspaper industry! It hasn't changed much in 20 years.

On another occasion we went out for team bonding drinks and after the first pub my male colleagues dropped me off early at my hotel so they could party at the strip club.

Turned up to a client's premises in my car with a male colleague who was literally half my age (and I'm not elderly!). When we needed to take the car to a particular spot the (male) client assumed my colleague was the driver and only addressed him. The idiot actually rolled his eyes when we told him the car was mine, I would be driving and I did not need instructions from him about how to park.