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Is he interested?

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 10:32

I'm sure there's no way of telling at this stage, but as I am getting quite excited, thought I would check in with fellow mumsnetters to keep me calm.

Recently I connected on LinkedIn with an old friend from school. He has been checking out my profile multiple times, then sent a connection request, and messaged as soon as I accepted. Back and forth, usual types of questions, how are you, your family etc. He's now suggested a drink/coffee as I am in the area, and he said I'd be a useful brain to pick. Lots of smiley faces. Is he being friendly or could there be some more intrigue? If he weren't hot, I wouldn't be over analysing like this at all Grin I don't even know if he's single!

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workshy44 · 12/04/2021 10:35

If you are not someone who could benefit him career/job/contact/ wise I would think from that he is fairly interested !

gamerchick · 12/04/2021 10:36

Sounds like you would be useful to him more than anything for something you don't know yet. Just don't get your hopes up about anything romantic and just enjoy the moment. Nice to do something different in these weird times.

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 10:37

We work in completely different industries but he is running a service for a competitor of the company I work for. The only connection I see! On the other hand, he could just be being friendly, but I've not had any requests to catch up with any of my old school friends I have connected with, particularly not men.

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 10:42

gamerchick Mon 12-Apr-21 10:36:53
Sounds like you would be useful to him more than anything for something you don't know yet. Just don't get your hopes up about anything romantic and just enjoy the moment. Nice to do something different in these weird times.

Exactly - and I don't even know if I'd still fancy him in person! Might be the boredom of lockdown...

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 10:45

He does reply pretty much instantly to my messages, which I find interesting, but again could be lockdown without much else to do. I live in a big city, which he works in, but lives outside of. He was asking me about that. Maybe he's pondering a move which he'd like to ask me about. That's the only other thing I can think of!

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gamerchick · 12/04/2021 10:46

That's what I'm saying. It's something different.

If hes running a service for a competitor then just be on your guard a bit. I'd still go though, nothing like blowing off a bit of steam.

Wiredforsound · 12/04/2021 10:59

If he’s selling a service to your competitor I’ll bet he wants to sell it to your company. Go anyway, but treat it as a business meeting/catch-up. He hasn’t moved off LinkedIn to friend you on FB, WhatsApp, or Instagram, has he? If not it looks like he wants to make a professional rather than personal connection.

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 11:37

Could I casually mention it’d be nice to catch up and make a jokey comment about how I not involved in the service he works in at the company where I am based...and then see if he follows up with arranging a drink...

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 11:43

Wiredforsound no he’s not on any social channels from what I can see. It seems professional but given how many times he viewed my profile, all the winky and smiley emoji he adds, and the speed of his msgs, makes me think he’s being more than just friendly and professional. We shall see! I may be wrong

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JustAnotherOldMan · 12/04/2021 11:43

If he is connecting to you via LinkedIn, sounds more like he’s after a professional connection to sell you services or find a way ‘in’ to your company, I used to work for a consulting company and we used to do this kinda thing all the time

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 11:45

JustAnotherOldMan as I’m in a public facing role for my company, I also get tonnes of messages from people wanting to sell or partner..

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icdtap · 12/04/2021 11:48

he said I'd be a useful brain to pick

Yeah... and given he does work for a competitor I wouldn't get your hopes up too much.
Go along and enjoy meeting up with him and see what happens.

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 11:50

icdtap sorry don’t mean to nitpick
He provides a service to a competitor of the company where I work
I mean his service may also be used by my company I am not sure! Totally different division
My thought would be he’d be talking more about work now...cos I may not get back to him on meeting for a drink...

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Sillysandy · 12/04/2021 11:50

Just go and see! And report back because I have no excitement in my life...

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 11:52

Sillysandy 😂😂😂

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icdtap · 12/04/2021 12:00

He provides a service to a competitor of the company where I work
I mean his service may also be used by my company I am not sure! Totally different division

He does work means he provides a service.
I didn't mean "he works".... there's a difference. No need for the use of "does" if he works for the company.
I do work for various companies but don't work for any of them.

Anyway... irrelevant... the point is that he perhaps wants a way in to the company you work for but my other point still stands, go along, see what happens, it'll be fairly clear what he wants pretty quickly!

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 12:10

Thanks icdtap 😊

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icdtap · 12/04/2021 13:11

Do come back and let us know how you get on.
Life's so dull in this pandemic (and I'm in another country where we are still under severe restrictions) - there's no gossip and excitement of people going for coffee with people and finding out what happened!

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 13:13

icdtap Well I’m not sure I will meet him now. I’m quite nervous at the thought as he has become very, very hot - physically at least, I don’t think he’ll interest me on an intellectual level.I’m not a bad catch myself but if I like him in person, and he doesn’t feel the same, I may feel quite rejected. Am a little sensitive these days Grin

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JobHunting10 · 12/04/2021 13:14

But yes either way I’ll let you know whatever happens

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JobHunting10 · 15/04/2021 23:38

Hello, just a quick update. So we've moved onto WhatsApp after I gave him my number. We have messaged all day, about life, work etc. He has a child from a previous relationship and lives alone. He's been asking personal questions about my life. Lots of fun banter too. He's told me to let him know if I'm free this weekend to hang out. I'm a little nervous about meeting him though! So may push it back to next weekend.

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MarkRuffaloCrumble · 15/04/2021 23:51

Do it!! You’ll only get more nervous the longer you leave it. Meet him this weekend for hot no strings sex and report back here ASAP

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JobHunting10 · 15/04/2021 23:58

I need a hair cut, my roots done, and a new outfit. I feel so awful and frumpy due to lockdown! Need time to prep so I feel good in myself...

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Baileysandcream · 16/04/2021 00:10

See if you can get an emergency haircut and roots done on Saturday and then meet him on Sunday and please update us at every possible opportunity !!

Bumberlee · 16/04/2021 00:16

He is just interested in you professionally. Work networking thing. He literally said brain to pick. Why do we women always over analyse. Men are simple. He told you whats up.