Picky or would this annoy you

[Newusertothis]

Id cleaned the whole kitchen and been to my sisters for Sunday lunch
Came home had another little tidy round then oh came home from his brothers with a takeaway (smelly chip shop curry) ate it then left his plate in the kitchen still with curry on stinkin the kitchen out presumably for me to wash.
I said are you going to wash your plate as ive cleaned the kitchen up,
He smirked then pretended to slap my face then he proceeded to rinse the plate in cold water.
I said u need hot water & soap, so he turned the hot on rinsed it and left it still in the sink.

My DH works full time, I only work Part time. He still does some stuff around the house, because we both live here.

@Newusertothis

He works full time i only work part time *@Regularsizedrudy*

So what if it's P/T, you are then doing the childcare and housework etc, don't sell yourself short!

He's obviously an abusive arse, but even if he weren't, how come washing his plate has anything to do with you?

You weren't even involved in his meal!

@JensonsAcolyte

My ex used to pretend to slap me. It soon escalated to actual slaps, and then punches.

He would ‘play fight’ as well, with me and the kids. It always hurt but was always a joke and I was being too sensitive. I left when my eldest was three, so he was play fighting with tiny toddlers to the point of tears.

Cunt.

We left and haven’t seen him since, kids now pretty much adults.

I recognise so many warning signs in your post.

OP, I think they would give you good advice. There is an implicit threat in what he does.

Good men don't pretend to hit their wives and kids.

Men who want you to know they can, do it.

Ring Women's Aid and see what they say.
I think it would be an eye opener for you.

I bet you have other stories about him.

I'm married 28 years and not in a million years would my husband do this.

It's thuggish, abusive, threatening behaviour.
The sort of thing that men that do play fighting, that somehow leaves a girlfriend sore or a wife with a bruise ...but it was just messing.

It's NOT.
It's abusive.

Knowledge is power.
Ring them.
You have nothing to lose.

Thank you @billy1966

What Billy1966 said.