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Am I overreacting about work colleagues comments and laughter?

29 replies

Fightingback16 · 12/04/2021 08:04

I am a little emotionally challenged after years of abuse but yesterday I just didn’t find this funny.

We were having a bit of banter, it was getting a bit much so I said I’d had enough now. Someone had said something like she’s a MILF now and another said hardly men would need to find her attractive first. To which I was like nice....

Anyway one made a comment about me and my boyfriend. We had met in the lifting of lockdown last year, we live in the same street. I had been single for a couple of years after 10 year abusive marriage. Anyway she said it’s funny isn’t it that at the beginning of the virus you were concerned about your mum (live with her a the moment) then as soon as a piece of cock comes along suddenly you couldn’t care less. I was annoyed with this comment and said to the 2 of them and they continued to laugh.
My mum told me to go and see him because she knew him in the street and she liked him for me. She also told me to continue seeing him as she could see he made me happy. He lives on his own.

Like I said I don’t mint banter but it didn’t feel very nice. I don’t think this is very supportive. Am I being over the top.

OP posts:
autumnalrain · 12/04/2021 09:10

Bullying. Report them.

DoingItMyself · 12/04/2021 09:11

They sound nasty, OP.
Ignore. You could write it down, just in case you need evidence of bullying later, but internally, ignore.

I'm curious about this 'piece of cock'. Which piece are you getting, and wouldn't it be better to get the whole thing?

Tistheseason17 · 12/04/2021 09:20

They were not nice. I'd step back from conversation and see if they realise and apologise- or whether they continue. Make notes of what was said and when - then speak to HR.

Wanderlusto · 12/04/2021 09:33

I assumed it was women but if its men then they are really creepy.

I'd literally just stop hanging out with them at breaks ect. And if they say this shit in the workplace, get up and move.

If need be, say 'the way you guys speak to me is not ok, om not ok with it, so I suggest you buck up your ideas. I'm not your playground pal and this is the workplace. Sort yourselves out or just stay away from me. Either one, I don"t care which'.

Make sure you are overheard by a neutral party so they can back you up if anyone tries to twist your words.

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