Recovering from a narcissist relationship

[Happy202]

Hi
I split up with my partner of 4 years a few weeks back and I have felt happy and relieved but yesterday it hit me and I feel like I miss him, all the things we did, aye, places we went. The intimacy.
I know it’s ridiculous, any advice please xx

Break ups are hard! I know this is cliche but give it time. You need to heal from your experience. Try to be kind to yourself, meet and speak with friends or family who you trust will support you. Cry about it, get angry about it...these feelings will pass in time. Reflect on what you've learned about yourself from your experience, wrote about it... If you're still struggling then maybe seek some therapy to help you process your feelings and your response to the relationship and the ending of it.
You can do this. Sending love and strength xx

It's always a leap to go from something longterm to single again. Especially during these times when pals are hard to see.

Everything else aside, he wasn't the man for you. I'm sure I've had good times with all my exs, but for one reason or another they all ran their course.

Theres two sayings you should keep in mind: 1. With regards to the good times 'dont cry because its over, smile because it happened' and 2. 'Its better to have loved and lost than to have lived with the psycho the rest of your life'.

Keep him blocked on everything and every time you waver or miss him, write down something really shitty that he did and remember that.

I think you're just feeling a bit lonely and missing happy times. But it's not really him that you miss. Because he was a knob.

Reading up all you can on narcissists can help. Because the more you learn, the more repellent you will find him.

Hi @Happy202,
You've posted about this before and I wonder whether you would benefit fro having therapy to help you with your recovery.
You may still be trauma bonded to him which is why you miss him although you know he's no good for you.
Absolutely no contact is the only way to get over them. The rare good times do not outweigh the abuse and trauma they inflicted on you.
Can you look into counselling or similar?

I have said this a few times on mn, look up Quora uk. A whole online community section that just talks about the experience of surviving narcissists. Thousands of stories. Lots of advice. It really helped me cope with the massive head scramble you get left with.

Well done for getting out.