DP has a best friend who lives about an hour away from us. We'll call him Bob for the purposes of this story. Bob is mid 40's. He's very troubled soul, pretty sure there's some untreated mental health issue going on, he drinks a lot, his family members all have problems with addictions, both alcohol and drugs and he's distanced himself from them because of this.
DP and Bob have been best friends since they were both teenagers. For obvious reasons they've not seen each other much recently apart from a garden meet up once last summer and again last weekend. Bob has a girlfriend of approx 18 months, DP has met her twice the second time being last weekend when he was chatting in their garden for a couple of hours the first for the very brief garden meet up last summer. DP didn't know her before she got together with Bob.
Not long after DP got home last weekend, Bob's girlfriend had messaged DP to say that she and Bob had argued and Bob had gone off angrily to his family home which she was worried about because it's a toxic environment. There's been some conflict at home with Bob's girlfriends teenage children and and Bob was struggling trying to manage that. DP was worried about Bob, he knows he's fragile and was worried about him getting caught up in the family environment given its full of drugs and booze. He's always been very protective of Bob, he he pointed out that Bob's a grown up and can make his own decisions.
DP called Bob's girlfriend they had a quick chat and DP kept up text contact with Bob throughout the day. When Bob eventually went home it was all played down, he said he just needed a bit of space, didn't have anywhere else to go, realised that 'home' was bloody awful and he was glad to be back to his girlfriend.
I thought it odd that Bob's girlfriend contacted DP, they really don't know each other and I wasn't sure what she expected DP to do for what essentially a pretty standard domestic argument.
Fast forward to this morning. DP told me that Bob's girlfriend had been on the phone again late last night (must have been gone 1.30am when I went to bed) to say that she and Bob had been arguing, DP called her again and tried to calm the situation. He seemed a bit baffled by it this morning, not really sure what she expected or wanted of him.
It feels weird to me?! Or maybe I'm being unfair? I wouldn't dream of contacting any of DP's friends if we'd had\were having an argument, let alone one who I'd only met briefly twice. I'd possibly contact his brother who he's extremely close to and I know very well, if I thought DP was a danger to himself or others. We've been together 7 years and no way would I contact Bob if the shoe was on the other foot. I'd be interested to know what others think. Maybe I'm overthinking it!