Cheating one

[Lostmyselfalongtheway]

Would you forgive someone cheating once (full sex via síte meet), and numerous other reach outs to people on insta and fabswingers. Basically periodically through out the relationship. At times more and less and nó real pattern as such.
Would there or could there be a future.
Líne or position given is that it was a sex addiction of sorts and it will be actively managed going forward.
Didnt tell of their own voiltion but got caught and then only when pressed.

I cant separate the logic and the emotion. Or maybe i can and I dont want to.

Is this something can bé got over. And I know nó one else can answer really but me but I would honestly appreciate all and any opinions.

Thank you all in advance.

I tried to forgive my ex after discovering him arranging to meet an ex FWB from Fab Swingers & from seeing escorts and probably more I knew of but didn’t want to face. Tried to accept his excuses and ignore the basic lack of human respect. It ended for other reasons but now it’s over I cannot believe the high levels of anxiety and hyper vigilance I went through in that relationship. It’s only now I’m free I can see how awful it was living like that. He swore he’d never do it again, was reformed, would treat the next GF better. Guess what, I had a look on Fab to see if he was up to his old tricks and there he was. He’s in another ‘loving’ LTR now as well. They never change. I can’t begin to understand why these men are like they are and cannot resist - but they can’t. Sad, sorry creatures they are.

Absolutely not...and I wouldn't consider that to be 'cheating once' either, he clearly tried to cheat many many times, so that makes him a serial cheater in my eyes whether he succeeded or not!

Also what does he mean by the sex addiction will be actively managed going forward? Does that mean he hasn't yet taken any steps to get any help for it?

I dont know if im just blindly clutching in the hope that people make mistakes etc
Do you believe it was a mistake or an addiction? I don't think it can really be both

Human nature is such that if you do something you want to do but shouldnt, and there is no consequence you do it again...

Sex addiction is just an excuse for bad behaviour.

Its not a sex addiction, its an addiction to the adrenalin rush of chatting to others and meeting for sex - its the ego boost he is addicted to.

My ex was the same except his affairs were emotional ones. 17 yrs he did it for, each time he promised not to do it again but he did, he couldnt help himself as he needed the ego boost (his words).

Those 17 yrs together nearly destroyed me, there was no trust, every time he was on his phone I thought he was chatting to women, I thought I was the problem - thst if I was prettier, thinner, nicer he wouldn't keep doing it.
When we split (3 yrs ago today) I realised that it was never about me, I am pretty, my body is fine and I am a nice person and he was the issue.

I'm on Fabswingers and it is pretty addictive, once you've met people off there its hard to go back to normality.

That was a lifestyle choice. Not a one off but a clear, determined choice. I know someone who did tia and when four out, went through inpatient counselling. Part of their recovery was to tell people what they did and that it was an addiction. Say sorry, acted very contrite. Yes shortly out of the clinic went back to it and blame is working or not understanding it is an addiction, not his fault. They’re not together now. Totally destroyed her.