Desperate for second child but unsure if I should stay with my partner

[Abby263]

I’m desperate.
I have been feeling unsure in my relationship for so long. We met when we were 24 and quite young and carefree. We have been together 10 years now and have a 3 year old daughter. But I find myself growing Further and further aprt from him and some days feel that I don’t even love him anymore and sometimes even despise him.
But on the other hand I do desperately want to give my daughter a sibling, but think if I was to leave my partner this would never happen.
This may sound completely ridiculous, but has anyone ever been in a slightly similar situation? Half of me says to leave him and try and be Halloween on my own and the other half says don’t be selfish and put up with him and keep the family home for your daughter and give her the sibling she wants so much.
Gosh I don’t even know what I’m asking for here, any words or advice would be appreciated, thanks.

Meant to say Happy not Halloween 😑...

A 3 year old only sees the sibling as a cute thing they can cuddle. They don’t understand the night wakes etc and there is also no guarantees siblings will like one another. Also what if you get PND or what if your partner doesn’t pull their weight in looking after the children. I don’t see why you couldn’t find someone new and still try with them. I suppose it depends. Are you just in a rut in your relationship that you need to have it out and say I resent you because x, could you make more of an effort or is definitely over. I think you need to seperate the issues and start with rebuilding a healthy relationship before any sibling consideration.

So you want permission to use a guy you’re not really in love with anymore for a second baby? Without telling him that’s what you’re doing?

Or would you be upfront with him and tell him you’re not in love with him anymore but would like to have a second child with him?