Hello
There's a backstory which I posted here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4210506-Confused-dumped?msgid=106192161
Title Confused Dumped
Anyway, i was thinking and didn't really know that we were trying to make anything work. I thought the conversation we had when he "finished" things was very serious ie he doesn't know how his daughter will be meeting me (i didn't know that was ever on the cards), being out and about after lockdown and having a huge age difference (didn't know we were planning that either).
So I asked if we could speak which we did. I told him we weren't in a relationship, it was fun so what were we working out? He disagreed slightly and said it was a relationship to him.
Anyway, he said there was the possibility when things calms down with his daughter that we could continue but he doesn't know and he still wants to end it now. He kept repeating that he needs "headspace" and that it's not me, it's him as he has such a complicated life which ends all relationships. He then said he wants to be friends and wants me to update him about meeting someone and how I get on in my job and course. I then said it's ashame to go from speaking every day to not and as it was fun, why we can't cool things instead of just completely ending. He then asked if I would like to go for a walk in a couple of weeks.
Anyway, I text him a flirty text a few days ago and he said his mind is elsewhere just now and sent me a pic of him and his daughter.
The next day, I was honest and said our sex life (for the whole 2 months) was amazing, we had a laugh and it was fun. Would be ashame not to continue when things are better for him. He then said he honestly doesn't know just now, we we're great fun but he is in reality with his daughter at the moment and then thanked me for my text. I then said we should meet for that walk next week if things are good for him and he said that would be nice.
What do you all think?
I feel bad that all his relationships have ended because of his daughter. We weren't in a relationship but I guess I just want him to cut himself some slack. He keeps telling me to go meet someone who I can marry and have kids with and I have continually said that I don't want children and Im not looking for a serious relationship with anyone (I had a nasty break up last year).
He said he didn't want us to have a nasty fall out like he has with his other exes and thought it was a good time to end it with everything going on with his daughter.
But I suppose I'm questioning if he even liked me in the first place, he doesn't speak to me anymore. We also really clicked and he always told me how comfortable he was with me and he always told me about his daughters condition and struggles he has had. It's weird to go from that to not speaking at all, ever.
Let me know!
The more honest, the better!
A x