Don't want to hurt my fwb guy

[Shooshybobs]

Ive been seeing a guy for the past 18 months on and off/fwb/seeing each other .
I ended it about a month ago and we have been fwb since then.
I ended it because he is very closed and couldn't express how he felt about me/us, he wasnt keen on making plans together or doing what i would consider normal relationship type stuff.
No phone calls, no chat besides surface level stuff, he couldn't ever say anything nice to me, the list goes on.
I just wasnt satisfied in terms of a relationship.
I think he could go on as fwb which is meeting once a week and a few texts in between, for long term. However I know that I am looking for more of a bf type person to go away for weekends with, go out for dinners, meet each others friends etc
He says he is happy on his own and does not express any desire to want to do any of these things with me.

Now a bit more normality is around the corner and I'm due to start a new job, I'm aware that i will start meeting new people and potential guys will show up. Im actually scared of hurting my fwb guy. I do know he has feelings for me as he reluctantly said this before, he had also mentioned while drunk that im in his head all the time, thinking about me when goes to sleep at night and as soon as he wakes up in the morning.

I do enjoy our arrangement just now but for me this is temporary until someone more suited comes along.
What would you do here?

I think if he wanted more op he’d have offered more, it’s you who wanted more, not him. Sounds like he’s in it for the sex, ans is being nice about it

I’d not be concerned, his ego might be hurt if you bin him off but fro. What you said not more.

If he wanted to keep you and not be hurt by your moving on, he would have made an effort to do the things you wanted to do or even really engage with you "No phone calls, no chat besides surface level stuff, he couldn't ever say anything nice to me... I know that I am looking for more of a bf type person to go away for weekends with, go out for dinners, meet each others friends"

What you are asking for here is pretty basic, many would say you have low expectations. Relationships are all about compromise. He knows what it would take to keep you and you are not asking for much so it wouldn't really be that much effort and in return he would get a loving secure relationship. So why do you feel bad about potentially moving on when presumably he doesn't feel bad about treating you so badly? Get your walking shoes on!