DP and I have been together 4 years .
After the first year i discovered accidentally he still had feelings for his ex. It was a difficult time but long story short we worked through it .
A few months ago I picked up a letter (already open ) but shoved down the side of his car . I was waiting while he was in the bank and a bit bored so looked .... perhaps wrong but I was just curious as it was hidden away and it was his life insurance attached to his house ( which he now rents out and owns outright ) .
We live together .
His ex was still named as the beneficiary.
To be honest he's a bit lazy like that so I did ask him why she hadn't been removed and he said he would do so the next day just hadn't got around to it .
A few months later I asked him if he's sorted that and he said he had so asked to see proof .
Again this is wrong but given the past and agreements for openness I asked and he was pay with this .
He forwarded an e mail to the company from a few weeks ago asking to remove his ex"s name but hadn't had a response.
He hadn't chased it up .
He said he would the next day .
The next week i asked again and he still hadn't .
The same has happened twice more. .
To be fair he is a really hard worker and under a lot of stress at work so probably quite reasonable that it's the last thing he wants to sort after 12 hours at work .
However tonight I've had a bit of a go because he knows how important it was to me and he still hasn't followed it up . Says I don't trust him and I replied that on this i don't think I'm being unreasonable to be upset .
Am I being over dramatic in that I am living with someone ( with my dc) who didn't prioritise this and if something happened to him tomorrow all his estate would go to his ex who is now happily married .
I don't expect him to leave it to me btw but just remove his ex ?
I'd appreciate your thoughts and sorry it's so long .