AIBU - lol

[tellmeagainhowitis]

Am I being unreasonable to get annoyed and find it rude that my partner replies to unfortunate things happening with “lol” or “haha”?

Examples:

• My treadmill has broken - haha
• I dropped a vase my mum bought me and smashed it - lol
• My Dyson hairdryer has given up the ghost - lol

And yes he knows how expensive/sentimental these things are.

They haven’t all happened today (that would be a bad day!) but over the course of the last few months.
He says it’s just a phrase and that I’m choosing to take offence.
I say if you don’t actually find it funny, don’t say it.

It makes me feel as though he lacks empathy and I don’t know if I can be with someone like that.

Or am I overreacting?

It just sounds like he’s not remotely interested in what you’re messaging him about. Replying for the sake of it.

Glad my message was helpful. Something else worth being in mind is it works both ways, a nice trick if you like is if something irritates you, ask the other person how they feel about it first. That is a trick because it gets them engaged and in thinking about feelings mode, then you can tell him your feeling.
So in your case you could ask how he felt when you sent him a message about your hair dryer. You will find out he had his own feeling that you weren't aware of. Remember, you don't have to agree with someone's feeling to validate and accept it.
Good luck.