I dont know what to do

[Mum119]

Me and my now ex partner kept having break ups and then making up again. Probably on my part because he couldn't communicate about important issues to do with our son and finances. It would get me so irate that I would end up finishing with him as he would frustrate me. This last break up he left and wouldn't come back and he said unless you see sense and start agreeing to stop doing that then I dont want to know. I thought about it and I agreed that yes it is probably not the best way to deal with the lack of effective communication. So I approached him and said I will stop doing that because its wrong but can we figure out a way to effectively communicate. After this he said 'I dont think you can give me what I want. I want a better sex life...' he went into graphic details about what he wants. I wasn't aware this was the problem. I agreed to work on the original issue and now all this about our sex life and that I train and put on weight. He was demanding these things otherwise he will find someone else.
I do feel particularly low so I started to agree but then I started to think that if he is willing to have me or anyone to fulfill his needs then he cant feel much for me.
I said I cant do it and wished him well.
I dont know if i have made the right decision.
I do agree I shouldn't have kept using dumping as a way to solve any issue and I do regret this. I know this probably eroded the feelings, but I need some advice.

Sounds like walking away from the relationship is the right thing to me. Can you speak to someone about your inability to communicate properly in relationships?

You are both shit at communicating properly and resolving issues effectively. Sounds like the relationship ended up being toxic in many ways and it's best you both go your own ways. You need to learn to communicate effectively and not use breakups as a tool to achieve goals. However, you were absolutely right to not agree to the ridiculous terms of getting back together. If he had issues with your sex life or your looks he could have gently discussed it with you during the relationship and not make demands when you broke up. Seems like he thought he would use the fact you broke up with him to his advantage to demand anything he wanted. Learn from the mistakes you did in this relationship so you don't repeat them in the next one, and move on from him x

Blimey. I won't ask you what he wants from your sex life that you don't already do. You have a child together, surely he could have sorted out what he wanted before you got that far.

People who live together have to be straightforward about finances, listen to each other's point of view and reach a compromise.

That man does not love you
Don’t take him back again

You are not what he wants. He was being ignorant and didn't want to communicate. How old are you if you don't mind? As I've only naturally gained weight at the age of 41 so don't destroy a naturally healthy figure for a few extra pounds for a man who demands it. Don't waste your energy on him anymore.

You have made the right decision.

I'm 32 years old.

Tell him you agree sex could be better. That he needs a bigger penis.
And if he can't provide you with one you will find one elsewhere..

This is actually true. It was on the small side.