How do deal with this situation?

[Dontwanttobeadoormat]

This is going to sound so silly, I know.

I try to avoid confrontation, and I find it hard to open up, so this situation is a tricky one for me. I don’t want to be a doormat and not say anything in though.

My friend has hurt me by leaving me out of something that we were planning together. She knows I am hurt and she has sent me a text message asking if she has done anything to upset me.

What the best response? I don’t want to get into a massive thing about it, but I also don’t want to say everything is fine.

Well try not to think about it as confrontation because she has asked you directly. It’s your opportunity to say “actually I feel quite hurt about being left out of XYZ that we had planned and don’t quite understand why that’s come about. I don’t want a big fall out but I don’t want to pretend I’m feeling ok either”

That’s such a measured response. Thank you.

I think I’d simply say that you are hurt because you’ve been left out of the event you wanted to do together and could she explain why this has happened.

I would be honest and let her know how it has made you feel or it will just fester. I hate confrontation too but learnt that people are not mind readers and can be very insensitive at times and don't even realise what they have done. You will feel so much better to get this out in the open

snarky nailed it.

@SnarkyBag

Well try not to think about it as confrontation because she has asked you directly. It’s your opportunity to say “actually I feel quite hurt about being left out of XYZ that we had planned and don’t quite understand why that’s come about. I don’t want a big fall out but I don’t want to pretend I’m feeling ok either”

This is perfect.

Totally agree sent that text, explains, questions and isn't confrontational