Will I be allowed to moved half an hour away with the children after divorce?

[Countdown99]

Not yet filed for divorce, just planning things in my head. When we divorce I know my husband will move 5 minutes away from where we currently live to move back in with his parents. I don't envision him ever moving from there as he didn't want to leave his parents in the first place (cultural expectations).

I would like to live 30 minutes away from where we currently live (I just like the area that's all), and it is 30 minutes away from where his parents live. If I was to try to move after we have divorced, would a judge prevent this or is 30 minutes acceptable?

Acceptable. Good luck with it all. 💐

Would you be driving to him to drop the child off or would you expect him to travel to you? In theory it's fine

Would school stay the same or change?

I think 30 minutes will be fine, but better to ask “permission” first.
Can you get them to their dad’s easily if you move?
Will you be moving schools too? Remember dad needs to give permission for that too.

I moved five hours away with no problem so 30 minutes will be fine.

That wouldn’t prevent access. We are rural so everything is 30 minutes away!!! Supermarket, kids school, hairdresser... if you are used to leaving in a city 30 minutes away may sound a lot but it really isn’t.

My daughters dad is about 30 minutes away. We take it in turns to pick up and drop off DD it’s not a problem.

It might be more of an issue if it’s 30 minutes drive away, neither of you drive and there’s very little public transport... (the joys of rural living!)

Thanks for the replies.. sounds promising! The children aren't currently in school. I want them to go to a private school in the area 30 minutes away. This will all be paid for by me. Is there any way which he can stop this or that I wouldn't be allowed to do this at all?

Also does anyone know if there are any restrictions on grandparents doing things like the school run? I don't think he'll be able to do it with work and I picture him getting his parents to do it instead.

And I'm more than happy to drive them to and from his house if necessary

Do not start being helpful, it is a rod for your own back.
Let him sort his own childcare or you will be HELPING him for the next 18 years.

What's the issue with his parents doing the school pick up?

I moved 35 minutes away after my divorce. I didn't ask him, he was told a few days in advance. I got sick of verbal abuse on my doorstep every time he picked up the kids. Also the move meant I was closer to family.

@Countdown99 yes, dad can stop you enrolling at schools IF he has parental responsibility (you’re married or he’s on the birth certificates).
Grandparents and anyone you or he chooses can do pick up and drop offs at school, as long as they’re safe and over the age of 16.
Why would you have an issue with this? The children are allowed (and should be encouraged) to build a relationship with their extended family.

[quote FelicityPike]@Countdown99 yes, dad can stop you enrolling at schools IF he has parental responsibility (you’re married or he’s on the birth certificates).
Grandparents and anyone you or he chooses can do pick up and drop offs at school, as long as they’re safe and over the age of 16.
Why would you have an issue with this? The children are allowed (and should be encouraged) to build a relationship with their extended family.[/quote]
I understand what you're saying about relationships, but aside from the fact they drove a huge wedge between my husband and I and treated me poorly, they believe in physically disciplining their grandchildren, shouting, swearing, guilt tripping etc. So naturally I want them to have as little as possible to do with my children

Well you can report to social services/police if they assault your DC.

However Dad will be awarded contact and who they see in that time you can't control unless SS involvement.

He can stop you from enrolling them in the school of your choice but you can force it through court if needed i suppose it depends how much he dislikes you to take it out on his children's education

Fwiw I enrolled my youngest in primary and my eldest in secondary without my exes name and no one said anything but he didn't bother challenging it as he isn't bothered

@Theunamedcat

He can stop you from enrolling them in the school of your choice but you can force it through court if needed i suppose it depends how much he dislikes you to take it out on his children's education

Fwiw I enrolled my youngest in primary and my eldest in secondary without my exes name and no one said anything but he didn't bother challenging it as he isn't bothered

I was never asked for the details either, no school at any stage of education was interested. Just like their father in fact, I sent him links to the proposed schools and he replied saying he couldn't be bothered. I hope he doesn't wonder why none of his four children (not all mine) even talk to him and why he's been divorced three times.

His said am I picking you up from school now your back? Ds said you do realise im at high school right dad? He said YES OF COURSE!.....which one?

I went with ds choice he has to go there i just buy the uniform and the bus pass

My ex tried to stop me moving 22 miles away when I we split up - even though the place I was moving to was only 4 miles from where he worked. The judge had no truck with it at all and told him in no uncertain terms it was unreasonable to object.