Talk to me about marriage

[EskimoBlue]

I love my partner but I’m not (yet?) ready for an engagement or marriage even though it is the “next step” - don’t get me wrong I know there doesn’t need to be a next step.

For me getting engaged with a view to being married is a decision you’d need to be 100% sure on, and I’m currently not at the 100% mark. I love my partner, I have no doubt I’ll be with him for years to come but marriage, to me, feels like a huge commitment that I need to be more sure of. So I guess my question is were you 100% sure you wanted to marry your partner or am I ridiculous and psyching myself out and over thinking, can you be so sure of anything?!

[quote LivBa]@EskimoBlue
The way to feel sense if someone is going to be a good dad is how sacrificial they are. Does he readily sacrifice his time, comfort and convenience to benefit others when there's NO benefit for him?

It's not just about being friendly and playful with kids. That alone is not a sign he will be a good dad. Parenting is about the hard slog and sacrifice and someone who already readily sacrifices for others is a good sign of a good dad.[/quote]
Yes, this!!