Dating help

[erialc1717]

I’m a single mum with 70/30 shared custody with the children’s dad.
I am having a bit of an episode. I’m on the dating scene and feel like I’ve been or have been an absolute tit!
I have met someone online and we talked so much before meeting ..... in fact talked for hours and had a great time and really into eachother.
Although he is a couple of years older then me he doesn’t have children.
When we met we really hit it off and basically spent the next 24 hours together. During this time I became more and more convinced that he was way out my league and I was a swamp troll gradually beating myself up.
Since the meet he has been in touch with me but at a more reduced level and also not talked about meeting again which we discussed on the night. I’m convinced that I’ve let myself down and have come across like a dorky hoe with nothing to offer but a messy house, unpredictable schedule and anxiety issues.
Because I am a stubborn mare part of me thinks I should just delete his number and move on. Self preservation and all that . Advice and wisdom of girl power would be appreciated 😢
P.s ... I hate dating

Don't think it's anything you've done, it's not your messy house or you, sometimes when we go on a date you decide they are just not for you, it's very different talking before meeting then the reality of actually meeting, although he should just grow a pair and be honest if this is the case of him no longer being interested, there will be times when you're also not interested after a date.

24 hrs together though? It could be he got want he wanted by sleeping with you? and doesn't want a relationship with you, maybe he is even already in a relationship , who knows when they are basically strangers.

All you can do in future is not spend too many weeks talking before a date, to avoid disappointment if it goes wrong, don't spend more than a few hours a week at first and no going to each other's houses! unless you just want hook ups.

Seensome.... thanks for replying ..... I guess that why I feel like an idiot because I know that it's probably just a hook up for him and I should have also known this and now feel like a little tart!
I've not pushed contacting and will not pursue anything as also don't want to chase and be a mug.
Suck it up and move on and learn from it I guess.
Tips on re empowering myself would be great.

It could be worse, at least you haven't been totally ghosted, let him contact you and if he asks to meet again suggest a dating only for a bit to get to know him better. Keep looking and talking to other guys until you find someone consistent.

Wise words !!
I guess just hits you in the gut doesn't it! X

Yep been there done that, onwards and up

Just think of it as you had a good shag and move on plenty more fish in the sea!

Sorry you feel bad, but if you want one empowering tip try looking at the the sheer amount of insults you’ve hurled at yourself in your posts. I count 13 ways at least you’ve done yourself down and you’ve only written a couple of short posts.

Maybe you see it as a joke or self-deprecation but that sort of constant criticism is not going to make you feel empowered. So maybe look at the way you speak to yourself first?

Did you sleep with him? Dating is very complicated - on line dating scares me - never done it but have met some serious weirdo's in the local co op that have dated and ghosted me !