Me and husband split after affair with woman

[k676mc]

Hi not sure where to start or what to say so I'll make it brief not to much detail..
I am married but my marriage is in trouble we are splitting up we have both had affairs recently I forgave him but he had trouble with mine as it was with another woman with whom I also work with it was quite intense and I still have feelings for her I'm not sure if she still feels the same we haven't really spoke much since it ended, so I'm coming to terms with my marriage ending and I feel like the only person I want to tell or talk to is her so my question is do you think I should try and talk to her again or leave it? She is also in a relationship but I think she still has feelings for me or maybe I'm just hoping she does thank you any help would be appreciated
And I also know what I done was wrong so no negative comments about that please..

I’d say talk to her and find out for sure

Leave the ap well alone. She is in a relationship herself so respect her space.

Is there a close friend you can talk to about your marriage?

Just talk to her. If she shrugs you off, at least you'll know where you stand. If she's a decent person, though, i'm sure she'll understand.

None of my friends know about the affair I feel like they would judge me and not listen to my side

@k676mc unless you’re going to drip feed an abusive relationship with your husband, you should be judged. As should he and the people you both had affairs with. Leave the other woman alone, she’s in a relationship. You’ve already wrecked your own life enough.

I wouldn't advise going from one relationship straight into another. It sounds like ending your marriage was probably the right thing to do.
Spend some time alone first. I don't think the relationship with the woman from work is necessarily off to the best starts if you were both being unfaithful to your partners.

@Beamur yes I suppose you are right I do need some time on my own to process everything, when I was having the affair we had both said we would leave who we were with for each other but I couldn't go through with it and now I wish I had

The break up of your marriage will become public knowledge eventually so you may get judged anyway. On the other hand, they may not judge you as harshly as you think if we're to confide in a friend. It is one of the consequences of infidelity I'm afraid.

If you just want someone to listen without prejudice then how about counselling?