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Postpartum hormones causing arguments

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PeachesBright · 08/04/2021 12:43

DD was born in early Jan. I had a relatively normal period in February. Then went back on the contraceptive pill when I started my next period in March. However, that period has so far lasted 24 days and counting!! It's heavy, is showing no signs of stopping any time soon and I feel like utter crap! My back is killing me and my hormones are all over the place.. it's making me snappy, emotional and irritable. So as to not drip feed - I am on antidepressants, but all my emotions seem to have been inflated during this period.

I've found myself taking it all out on my DH which has been causing us to argue ..a lot.
During the last argument we had, my DH told me "You're horrible". Poor fella had done nothing wrong, and he was right, I was horrible during the argument. I always end up feeling incredibly guilty and upset the following day when I think back about how I acted. He didn't deserve it and I feel like a terrible person. I've apologised to my DH for the recent argument and he was very good about it. He said it's all done and dusted, let's put it behind us and we will put it down to my extended 'time of the month'.

I'm worried that I'm pushing him away. There's only so much someone is willing to take. This is my first baby. Is it normal to feel/act like this? When do postpartum hormones/periods settle and allow you to feel like your normal self again?

Also, how can I make it up to my DH? I really do feel awful for taking it all out on him Sad

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autumnalrain · 08/04/2021 14:29

Bumping for you OP, I haven’t experienced this but didn’t want to read and run

Amijustagrump · 08/04/2021 14:35

No advice just Flowers and hopefully it all stops soon! Just keep talking to him and reminding him a lot of it is all hormonal- doesn't make it right but does mean that you are aware you aren't being your normal self.

pog100 · 08/04/2021 15:00

Keep talking. If he's a decent man he'll understand what you've been through and are going through. I'm out of date with what's recommended but is the pill usually ok so soon after birth? Wouldn't condoms or just no sex for a couple of months be better?

Aquamarine1029 · 08/04/2021 15:07

If you need to see your gp for help, do so, but you need to find another outlet for your emotions other than bullying your husband. If you're feeling overwhelmed or angry, tell your husband you need him to take over with the baby so you can remove yourself and take the time you need to calm down. Hormonal issues are absolutely horrible, but you are still responsible for how you behave.

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