Thrown drink on DP

[DietCokeandLime]

I've just thrown a drink over DP. I feel so embarassed and disgusted with myself. Does this mean I'm abusive?

There is a bit of a back story in that things aren't the best between us at the minute, we were already arguing a bit tonight anyway and I thought he had purposely spilt his drink on my arm/cardigan as we were having our tea. I sat there in shock for a moment, then picked up what was left in my glass and threw it at him. He asked what I did that for and I said because he'd poured his drink on me. He said it was an accident, I said that I saw you it wasn't and walked upstairs.

After a few minutes, I apologised to him and cleaned everything up but he told me to sleep in the spare room tonight.

I'm so ashamed of myself and don't know what to do.

@CloudFormations

Do people really walk away from otherwise good relationships

Either OP’s partner deliberately spilled a drink on her then lied about it to her face, or OP wildly overreacts to accidents with abusive behaviours. Either way, how does it remotely appear to be a ‘good’ relationship...?

Yes they do on MN. The standard recommendation is if you're in any way fed up or pissed off, leave. In fact the norm on MN is to plan your divorce before the wedding.

I think it depends also on how quickly it happened. If he spilled the drink and she reacted by throwing what was left he may have still been thinking 'shit did I just knock her drink over oops' and not had time to say anything. (OH would have sat looking embarrassed for a moment before saying anything.)

If they've had a few arguments and things have been a bit stressful it may have been a reaction to that more than the drink. Time to talk it over depending on what the issues are.