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Desperate need

17 replies

burgess98 · 07/04/2021 20:34

Does anyone know anywhere that's really easy to get a loan from? I don't care about I treat rates or anything like that I just can't get accepted anywhere! I'm trying to leave a bad relationship that involved a lot of emotional abuse, I need out now and a better life for me and my babies. I can't take anymore and I'm desperate, the house I'm in is falling to bits and I have a slum landlord who won't do shit.
I'll be greatful for any advice. I've tried the council many times but my local council are genuinely awful. Last year they put me in temp accommodation , a bnb, that was a few hours away from my home town where my family live and I just broke down. I have no mobile so couldn't talk to anyone and I ended up going home, could not stop having panic attacks and I can't do that again.
Thanks

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snoopy8 · 07/04/2021 20:44

Hello, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't know anything about this but a quick google came up with this... https://www.moneygeek.com/financial-planning/resources/financial-help-women-abusive-relationships/
Maybe worth taking a look?

Also perhaps organisations like Relate or Women's Aid could help?

I hope someone more helpful comes along soon Thanks

snoopy8 · 08/04/2021 23:16

Is everything ok @burgess98?

Queenie6655 · 08/04/2021 23:22

Hello

Can you call Womans aid

They will help and put you in touch with lots of great agencies

Please get out as soon as you can
They can put you in temporary accommodation

Original poster
burgess98 · 10/04/2021 14:48

I'm going to call them Monday and the council again I can't take this anymore😭😭😭

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Original poster
burgess98 · 10/04/2021 14:52

I feel like a monster because the kids love their dad and I'm going to move them out of the House and into temporary accommodation I feel like I've failed as a parent and let them down

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AtrociousCircumstance · 10/04/2021 14:54

No, this is on him. It’s all on him. He’s the monster, you’re the hero.

Good luck.

nimbuscloud · 10/04/2021 14:56

Getting them and yourself out of an abusive relationship is the best thing you can do for them. Woman’s Aid will help 💐

Original poster
burgess98 · 10/04/2021 15:02

Thank you everyone😭😭😭😭

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jannyapple · 10/04/2021 15:35

Can you go and stay with family @burgess98 . Save you getting into debt and get some support at the same time !

funnylittlefloozie · 10/04/2021 15:40

You poor thing, it all sounds horrific for you. Please do ring Women's Aid and the council again. Do you have any family who could just help you get away? Do you have any access to money?

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burgess98 · 10/04/2021 16:26

I'd love to be able to stay with family but none of them will have me because of lack of space and things 😕 my mums not very supportive and my dads an addict so I try and stay clear. I've tired saving up so I can go private and get something ASAP but that hasn't gone to plan either

OP posts:
jannyapple · 10/04/2021 16:34

@burgess98 I'm so sorry you are in this position
25 years ago that was me .. I took my children and one carrier bag to a hostel , I felt free safe and easy
I had no clothes belongings or property but I slept well for the first night in years
We can always replace " stuff"
I really hope things improve for you

Twizbe · 10/04/2021 16:37

Citizens advice have loads of information that could help.

Credit unions are worth a look as well. They specialise in helping people on low and fixed incomes. They are also NOT loan sharks who'll charge you a ton of interest.

Women's aid are likely to have some information as well

marchez · 10/04/2021 16:48

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YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 10/04/2021 17:14

Hello everyone.

We've had a number of reports from people concerned about this thread so, as we usually do in these circs, we're putting our heads round the door with some important reminders.

Right now we can't see any evidence to indicate that the OP isn't above board – if we did, we'd remove the thread straight away. But the truth is that, sadly, we at MNHQ can't know with 100% certainty that any poster is genuine, no matter who they are or how long they have been here. As frustrating as it is, we're not able to vouch for anyone here.

So we always ask users to remember that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are – and remind folk not to give more to another poster, either financially (in cash or gifts) or emotionally (in time or care and support) than they'd be prepared to lose if things went wrong. We strongly advise against parting with any cash or giving away your personal details, and if you receive a PM which makes you uneasy - report it to us and we’ll take a look.

Sorry to hijack your thread briefly there, OP – we really hope you get it all sorted soon. In the meantime, you might find some useful information on our guide for dealing with financial difficulty

If you'd like to, please do feel free to take a look at our Domestic Violence page.

Very best wishes from all at MNHQ Flowers

Queenie6655 · 12/04/2021 11:12

Hello sending you lots of good wishes

How are you?

snoopy8 · 13/04/2021 21:21

How are you OP?

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