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Marriage breakup?

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Slalom101 · 07/04/2021 14:38

Husband just told me he doesn’t fancy me anymore, he loves me but doesn’t want to be with me intimately. He feels we have nothing in common anymore and are 2 different people.
We have 2 kids, he doesn’t want to split but stay together for the children’s sake.
I don’t know what to do or what to think. Things haven’t been great for a while. He’s been detached from the family life, he hardly did anything with the kids, stayed up all night smoking weed. I’ve spend many days trying to talk to him, getting upset and crying by the lack of his involvement. I’ve also said some horrible things to him which I now regret.
The last week he’s been very helpful, asking for anything needs doing around the house, taking the kids to the park etc
I asked him what’s going on as it didn’t feel sincere, and eventually he told me.
So this is where we are now. I feel like my whole world just crashed.
I don’t think I can go on and pretend like everything is fine for the children’s sake.
What do I do? Counselling? Is there any point?
I said I’d move out but he said that’s too drastic, if anything he’d move out.
I’m hurt and can’t think straight.

OP posts:
pigletpie2177 · 07/04/2021 14:52

Didn't want to read and run. As much as the comments may have come as a shock, it sounds as though this may have been on the cards for a while. It doesn't sound like he contributes much to your life as it stands - other than the change, would you be sad for this to end? People will come along with savvy advice soon re the house (i think generally you are advised to stay put, albeit not necessarily with him in situ!) but just hope you're ok @Slalom101 x

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