My husband and I have been together for 17 years and have dd 12 and ds 11. We have been confronted with certain situations since we’ve had children that have made me question our relationship. I had a brain tumour removed when the children were very young, my husband sometimes found it hard to deal with even though I bounced back extremely quickly so his life didn’t actually alter that much. Four months later my mum was visiting for Christmas from Cornwall, she became very unwell and was admitted to hospital (Christmas day) and not long after was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she was in hospital for the following four months before she died. My brother and I tried to make sure that she had someone with her every day but I lived 30 miles from the hospital and didn’t have childcare so it was a struggle, my husband didn’t once offer to take time off work and towards the end when mum was in a hospice and we were allowed to stay the night he asked me who was going to look after the children, in the end it happened over a bank holiday so he was off work (he took them to his mum’s so he’d have help). My dad was then diagnosed with dementia and when we got a call to say he’d had a stroke my brother and I made arrangements to go to Cornwall (where he lived) but this again was with no help from my husband, when I called him to say I had to go he just said he wouldn’t be able to get the time off (didn’t even ask), I was very lucky that a friend offered to look after the kids and get them to school etc. I was devastated when I lost my mum and dad but husbands attitude is that life goes on so it wasn’t really discussed. A few years on and we are drifting further apart (no bedroom stuff in two years, I don’t want to) and our parenting decisions are sometimes miles apart, I just don’t know how much longer I can do this, maybe I’m holding things against him and need to deal with it and move on. There is more but I don’t want to ramble, It has made me feel quite emotional writing it down, thanks for listening xx