Where do we go now ?

[ginfantastic]

Eight months in. Thought we would be a relaxed eow type of relationship ... as we are both parents and our ex partners have our kids on those weekends .
We now see each other every weekend. One night one week , the whole weekend for the other .
We are both happy with level of contact . Daily calls , a few texts through the day . Covid has brought us together more than
We normally would be in that we are a bubble and can't meet extended family: friends / hobbies .
But where do we go from
Here?
Anyone in this position or have been .
I don't want him to move in. He has lived solo for six years .
Is it sustainable to continue this arrangement and for how long in your experience ?
He has said that given the choice he would much prefer a family type of situation to live in .. ie .. mine .. than live alone. I love my space and my children are healing well from their dad who upped and walked for another ( single/ responsibility free/ disinterested in my kids/ woman ) 2 years ago . He loves his space as he works in a high pressure job with odd hours .
Can we continue this for a few years ?
I don't want to upset my home: kids dynamic just yet .. 5 years at least ..
Is it doable ?

I don't see why not. It's working and things will just get harder as the kids become teenagers.

Plus this way you get the fun of dating and being more present when you are together. Think it is easier to take each other for granted when you live together.

Absolutely! I'm 7 years in and we still live apart and completely adore each other. It's the best arrangement as I get my time with my kids and he gets his space, and we really look forward to seeing each other. Perhaps we might change things when my kids have moved out and we are a bit older but until then it's really working for us.

O this is great to read. Thank you . Theyhave met him once and think he is
My friend . They are crazy about him from that meeting . But I worry that if the status quo remains we will not progress and things will just die out. Fizzle out. And I am also worried about when lock down ends will we be ok.

It seems odd that you’re asking us rather than him. I would say it was eminently doable, but if I were you it would be ringing alarm bells that he is thinking he could move in at some point.

A harmonious single parent household is something to be preserved at all costs in my opinion, and I would be making sure he was aware that moving in wouldn’t be an option.

I genuinely believe that he likes the idea of it but in reality he knows it couldn't work as I work full
Time , different hours to him . We are so busy here and I have often said that he wouldn't last a week here , in view of the f our lifestyle and busyness.
He agrees as he has a very set daily routine which couldn't compliment our lives and again I wouldn't compromise my kids lifestyle and harmony for anyone yet .
I think he loves the idea of the bustling busy happy go lucky life but reality would be so much ch different and would be stressful yet I don't want to lose him.

Your relationship sounds ideal, Gin.