How often do you see family?

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How often do you see your parents and your husband's family? They all live close by, 10 minute walk or a 20 minute drive.

We have a baby, I'm SAHM and husband is working full time. I could see my Mum during the week but husband's parents would be at weekend and husband would only be able to see my Mum at the weekend.

We are re-starting our house renovations next weekend and will be doing it most, if not every weekend for quite a while! And then from September we'll both be busy in the day time with the team sport we both play. There will be very little time in the day that we'll all be at home together so Sunday is our only full day as a family.

My DM is an hour away and every couple of weeks or so. PIL has been barely at all due to lockdown but maybe once a month but I'd like it to be less frequently tbh. Our families are difficult for different reasons so they usually feel like quite hard work unfortunately. Particularly PIL.

My parents live about 10 minute walk away and my PIL's about 15 minute drive away and haven't seen them much at all with covid . Before that, we'd see them every week. I saw my mum a few times a week before covid.

I can’t imagine having parents or in-laws that close. Both ours are about a five-hour drive away. We see them about three or four times a year.

DHs parents live 45 mins to an hour away, depending on traffic... before Covid we saw them once a week, either at theirs or meeting up half way.

During Covid we’ve seen them maybe five times? Mostly in the Summer, and then when we dropped food off for them in December and in the garden last week.

We’re hoping for once a fortnight/once every three weeks as things go back to normal, but we do text them and we’ll video chat sometimes too. Weekly just feels a bit much, we both work long hours so it leaves little time for us to spend together or see other people. His parents seem okay with this so far, it gives them time to see other family too.

In normal times pre covid my parents at least once a week (I was on mat leave so had to time on my hands), they live 20 minutes away. Mil about 1 hour away, maybe 4 times a year at most (husband is not close with them)

My parents are half hour drive away and I see them once every two weeks. Dp's mum is about 6 hours away, they aren't close at all, he sees her once every couple of years.

Its pretty irrelevant what other people do. See your family went you want to. There are no set rules or formulas.

If it feels too often, scale it back and dont feel guilty. Live your life for you.

@anonapuss it's not totally irrelevant what others do. It's a good guage as to whether what you think is way out, unreasonable or if it sits nicely. But you are right, do what feels right and don't feel guilty.

@takeyourfinalposition thinking once every 3 weeks also. Once a week seems too much, but it seems to be expected from us. As you say, 2 or3 weeks would give us time to spend together or see other people.

I see my parents at least once a week and term time they help with school runs so I see them then too.
I'm close with my parents so I enjoy there company.
My in-laws... we don't see often or my husband will take the children when I'm at work at the weekend once a month I'd say.

Both sets of parents live 15 min away